For my children’s sake, it is better to leave?
We know that abusive men often go to great lengths to win the kids’ loyalty and get the kids to despise their mother. Even though your child thinks he (or she) loves this man, he (or she) also fears and is repelled by his behaviour. You can see this, even though your child is too young to comprehend it for himself / herself.
You are the adult. You have the responsibility of making what you believe are the best choices for your children’s future. Sometimes good parents know better than their kids and such parents have to override the child’s wishes for the child’s long term good.
We always encourage victims to make their own decisions. Here is an article from The Cedar Network which we think you will find helpful in making this decision: Impact of domestic abuse on children.
Here is another article from a family violence support service: Do you feel safe at home? … Do your children?
And here are some posts from our blog:
How Do I Tell My Children We are leaving Daddy?
The Dog and the Rabbit: Helping children understand domestic abuse
Teaching Children The Ten Commandments of Character
Defiant Boys: one mother’s story of the problems of parenting after domestic abuse.