A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Tag Archives: George Simon Jnr

Abusers know no shame

[May 25, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] Zephaniah 3:1-5 Woe to the city that is rebellious and defiled, the oppressive city! 2 She has not obeyed; she has not accepted discipline. She has not trusted in …

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Leslie Vernick – various responses that domestic abuse victims have to her work. (5th & final in series on SBC’s ChurchCares program)

Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. To illustrate the range of responses that victims have to Leslie’s work, I will be quoting from their comments. Most of my quotes will be excerpts from victims’ comments and I will give links to their original comments …

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Position, Position, Position — Why the Habitual Liar Lies

Using the example of Ben Ferguson’s interview with #AndySavage #churchtoo #silenceisnotspiritual A political candidate was confronted by reporters regarding something she had said during a speech. She denied saying it. So the reporters showed her the tape. She watched the tape and watched herself say it. She then looked back to the reporters and they …

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Thursday Thought — Judge Actions, Not Intentions

Never try to “mind-read” or second-guess why somebody is doing something, especially when they’re doing something hurtful.  There’s no way for you to really know, and in the end, it’s irrelevant.  Getting caught up in what might be going on in an aggressor’s mind is a good way to get sidetracked from the really pertinent …

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Thursday Thought — He’s just insecure.

We often hear statements like this about abusers:  “Well, you know, he grew up in an abusive environment” or “He is insecure, so you just need to love him more and be patient.”  These statements and similar statements can come from friends, family members, church leaders, victims, authors, and even professional counselors.  The beliefs behind such …

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Projection — A misused and misapplied term

Abusers falsely accuse their victims. And often an abuser falsely accuses their victim of the very sins that the abuser is most habitually indulging in.  It is very important to know this, because many folk mistakenly think that abusers engage in projection. The mistake is easy to make because ‘projection’ is a psychological term that is much misused; even many mental health professionals misuse …

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