One of the most common characteristics of an abuser is — you all know it well — he never admits when he is wrong. Never admits fault. Never takes blame. Unless of course it is done just for show, to dupe others into thinking he is "humble." Now, here is a question for all of us.… Continue reading A “Gauntlet Down” Challenge to James Dobson, Focus on the Family, and Other Christian Ministries of Fame
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How victim’s responses to abuse are mis-labelled, and how abusers’ tactics of abuse are mis-labelled.
Most people (and most of our social institutions) do not know how to honour the many creative ways victims resist abuse, oppression and violence. Rather than seeing and honoring a victim’s resistance, they see the victim’s responses to the abuse as indicating her deficiency or defectiveness. And because they see her as deficient, they put… Continue reading How victim’s responses to abuse are mis-labelled, and how abusers’ tactics of abuse are mis-labelled.
