Fake apologies employ self-justification. They appease just enough to quell resistance. They excuse the abusers and condemn the victims. Real apologies involve surrender, confession, recognition and empathy. What I’ve Observed When Institutions Try to Apologize and How They Can Do Better by Wade Mullen. Too often the words "We are sorry" are casually offered and… Continue reading Apologies—the good and the bad. Wade Mullen’s wisdom from observing institutional apologies.
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Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People: A coaching clinic for victims of domestic abuse and their supporters
Your platitudes are proverbs of ashes (Job 13:12a NKJV) Domestic abuse victims frequently find themselves misunderstood by those from whom they seek support. Such interchanges can be extremely distressing for victims — they feel at a loss as to how to respond to the attitude of the supporter. Frequently supporters don’t mean to hurt; it… Continue reading Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People: A coaching clinic for victims of domestic abuse and their supporters