Christian Authors and Ministries in our Hall of Blind Guides
We are not making any personal aspersions or accusations against the character of any person or organization listed here. We are simply announcing that this list represents well known organizations, theologians, pastors, counselors and others who are in our opinion, not safe resources for abuse victims.
There are two people we need to caution about, although they are not as bad as the others listed below.
Leslie Vernick, author and counselor
Some victims of domestic abuse find Leslie Vernick’s work helpful; others find it confusing and even dangerous. This post explains why.
Chris Moles, author, counselor & pastor. PeaceWorks.
See our Chris Moles Digest for our praises and our concerns about his teaching.
The list below is in alphabetical order by Author or Ministry
Barbara Mouser, author
She and her husband are the directors of the International Council for Gender Studies (ICGS). She is the author of Five Aspects of Woman (A Biblical Theology of Femininity)
Biblical counseling organizations – caution needed
The biblical counseling movement was started by Jay Adams and called NANC – National Association of Nouthetic Counselors. NANC changed its name to ACBC – Association of Certified Biblical Counselors The movement has other offshoots including IBCD – Institute for Biblical Counseling and Discipleship, and CCEF – Christian Counseling and Education Foundation.
While you may come across a counselor trained by the one of these associations and that counselor understands abuse, we have heard many reports of counselors trained under these systems doing more harm than good to victims of domestic abuse. See the following tags: Nouthetic Counseling Biblical Counseling CCEF.
Biblical Gender Roles
The website called Biblical Gender Roles is very dangerous. It has a page that says God wants people to stay in abusive marriages. And it endorses “domestic discipline” which is a euphemism for sado-masochism where the husband beats his wife under the guise of him supposedly disciplining her for not adhering to her prescribed gender role.
Many victims of domestic abuse have told us that their abusers attended Celebrate Recovery groups and it made absolutely no difference to the level of abuse the victim was subjected to. It is apparent that most people who run Celebrate Recovery groups have very little or no understanding of domestic abuse, and in ‘helping’ the addict recover from addiction they sometimes stroke the ego of the abuser. From the feedback we’ve heard from victims of domestic abuse, people who run Celebrate Recovery groups often end up being witting or unwitting allies in the abuser’s ongoing project of oppressing his victim.
Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF)
We believe that while CCEF is teaching and writing about how to respond to domestic abuse, as yet their teaching still has so many flaws and gaps that we suggest it needs to be approached with caution. We would have more confidence in CCEF if it publicly renounced and apologized for the things it has taught which have hurt victims of abuse and PTSD sufferers. See our CCEF tag.
David Clarke has written a book I Don’t Want a Divorce: a 90-Day Guide to Saving Your Marriage. See our blog post regarding concerns about this book.
Day One Publications (in the U.K.)
Day One has published a “Help!” series in small booklet form. Titles include Help! Someone I Love Has Been Abused, and Help! I Can’t Forgive,and Help! I Can’t Submit to My Husband, and others. As with most such material there is some good in these, but they contain enough serious error that we have to place them on this list. The Editor is Dr. Paul Tautges, a NANC counselor and pastor. The booklet on submission to husbands, by Glenda Hotton, cites as references such notorious works as Nancy DeMoss’ Lies Women Believe, Elizabeth Rice Hanford’s Me? Obey Him? and John Piper.
Once more, it is patriarchy among numerous other teachings which we believe to be unbiblical that places Philips and the former Vision Forum crowd on this list.
Douglas Wilson, pastor (Christ Church, Moscow, ID) and author
Wilson’s patriarchal views qualify him for the Hall. The association he belongs to is the Communion of Reformed Evangelicals (CREC).
Faith Trust Institute & Marie Fortune
Faith Trust Institute is known for having resources on domestic and sexual abuse, but it has liberal theology, and the founder of the Institute, Marie Fortune, is an openly practicing lesbian (see links below).
Family Life’s Men Stepping Up (mensteppingup.com)
Why is this program on the list? Because it includes presentations by Voddie Baucham and Mark Driscoll.
Focus on the Family
While Focus on the Family has made some good statements about abuse of late, we still do not believe that they are ready to be given our confidence. We will still not refer abuse victims to them. See our Focus on the Family tag.
Gary Thomas, pastor and author
While his books on marriage may be helpful for non-abusive marriages, they say many things which can be hurtful and dangerous for victims of domestic abuse. He has also written a blog article, “Why Men Don’t Change”. This article denies the reality of the new birth and maintains that a man can be a Christian and keep abusing his wife.
Gary has refused to heed our feedback. See our Gary Thomas tag (including the comments threads in the posts).
Heath Lambert, Executive Director of ACBC
Lambert’s teachings are dangerous for abuse victims. Our post, If God put you together you’re not allowed to separate – says Dr. Heath Lambert, that exposes his twisted theology.
Jason Meyer, pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church (BBC)
Meyer is senior pastor at BBC (John Piper’s former church). In spite of having been trained about domestic abuse by Chris Moles and the church having a statement about domestic abuse, it is clear that Meyer and the leadership at BBC do not understand domestic abuse and do not have the needs and safety of victims as a priority. Here are some ACFJ posts that explain:
Jason Meyer does’t understand domestic abuse very well.
When Ps Jason Meyer mutualized the blame in domestic abuse.
My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church — a reblog from Natalie.
Jay Adams, author, “father” of nouthetic counseling
While Adams’ position on divorce for abuse may be better than others, we cannot recommend him or nouthetic counseling for abuse victims. See our Nouthetic Counseling tag.
Jenny Bolt Price, iwokeupyesterday.com
a pastor’s wife and life coach in south Florida, Price’s blog contains articles that would lead an abuse victim down a very wrong path.
Jim Newheiser, Director of ICBC – the Institute for Biblical Counseling and Discipleship
Pastor and professor at Reformed Theological Seminary, Newheiser rehashes the same old enslaving party lines about marriage and abuse. Our post, Another abuser-enabling, victim-enslaving book: Jim Newheiser’s “Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage” exposes his dangerous, unbiblical teachings.
At Pastor Crippen’s blog, Light for Dark Times, he also exposes Jim and Carolyn Newheiser at his post ‘Biblical Counserlors’ Such as the Newheisers Would Tell Phinheas that he Had Sinned.
John MacArthur, Jr., pastor, author
MacArthur has consistently denied that abuse is grounds for divorce. See our John MacArthur tag.
John Piper, pastor and author
Piper is well-known to readers of this blog as a teacher of the permanence view of marriage. That means no divorce for any reason ever as long as one’s spouse is still living. He also has an unorthodox doctrine of salvation. See our John Piper tag.
Jon Uhler, sole leader of Church Protect
Jon revealed himself during an interchange on FB regarding the story that Marci Preheim published called “Jane” that he is someone who was not respecting the choices of victims. More is explained with this ACFJ comment by Barbara Roberts.
Justin Holcomb, pastor and author
Justin and his wife have written a book about domestic abuse. Their book has some good points, but we also have concerns about some things they say. See our Justin Holcomb tag.
Lou Priolo, founder and president of Competent to Counsel
Priolo acted appalled that I didn’t want to be married anymore even before getting any details. He said something like: ‘Why would you expect that your kids won’t be bitter at you if you are bitter at your husband? You need to apologize to your kids for your marriage.’ His tone was very rude so I never contacted him again. (This was the personal experience of one of our readers who wishes to remain anonymous.)
Mark Driscoll, former pastor of Mars Hill, Seattle, Washington
Driscoll’s bullying style in addition to his teaching content earns him a definite place on this page.
Martha Peace, author
Author of The Excellent Wife (and several other books) Martha’s teachings keep abuse victims in bondage – to which several of our readers would testify. Here is a link to an Amazon review by Avid Reader that exposes Martha’s twisting of scripture. And here is our post, Is Martha Peace a strong advocate for women who are being abused?
Michael and Debi Pearl, authors
Debi Pearl’s book Created to be his Help Meet has done immense harm to many victims of domestic abuse — see this review of the book. The Pearls’ hyper-patriarchy wins them a place on our list.
Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, Revive Our Hearts women’s ministry
Nancy is quite uninformed as to the nature and tactics of abuse. The advice to abuse victims she provides has frequently been very deficient. See our Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth tag.
Neil Anderson & Freedom In Christ Ministries
Theologically, there is some concern about doctrinal confusion in Anderson’s approach. He speaks of “soul ties” and various concepts popular in the church that don’t appear to have scriptural underpinning. While there is no doubt in the minds of many abuse survivors that satanic oppression and influence occur in an abuser, some of the cure Anderson proposes isn’t scriptural rather, it is popular inner-healing methods that produce much trauma in some of those that get taken in by it. And we are cautious about any teaching (and Anderson’s may be one such teaching) which emphasizes the demonic and supernatural but fails to address the non-supernatural that is the bread and butter of abusers’ tactics. The abuser typically chooses and selects, in his own flesh, the tactics of abuse and coercive control he uses against his target. Any teacher on demonization who does not understand the mindset of entitlement which abusers cultivate, will not be equipped to provide balanced and wise help to domestic abusers or their targets.
Paul Hegstrom and Life Skills International
We are not willing to endorse Paul Hegstrom’s books, movie, or his program Life Skills International (or the other programs and books which LSI seems to have sprouted, which seem to be set up by people who model their programs on Hegstrom’s example). We are not convinced that Hegstrom’s approach is fully sound. See our post that explains our concerns.
See our post Abuse and Scripture: Paul Washer and the Doctrine of the Sufficiency of Scripture – and make sure you read the comments thread too.
Started by Ken Sande in 1982, this organization’s materials and philosophy do not adequately consider the abuse scenario. (They have stated in writing that they have no policy on domestic abuse.) As a result, victims can be harmed and abusers enabled by this approach. Sande’s well-known book The Peacemaker, is in our opinion biblically inaccurate particularly in its treatment of the subject of forgiveness and reconciliation. See our Peacemakers tag.
Pure Life Ministries
Founded by Steve and Kathy Gallagher deals with sexual addiction. While this program may claim to have some success stories, they show a lack of biblical understanding (i.e. teaching that God Hates Divorce) and victim blaming and minimization. See a reader’s comment here.
Stephen Gola & Divorcehope.com
Read this post to understand why we do not recommend Stephen Gola’s book Divorce: Gods’ Will?
2equal1 International (combined ministries of Nova Shalom, Marriage Ministries International and University of the Family)
U.S. Directors: Mike and Marilyn Philipps; Australia Directors: Ian and Jan Watts
This ministry is based on the unbiblical concept that a covenant is forever binding and God expects couples who take a vow to keep that vow “even to (one’s) own hurt.” And a divorced person can’t remarry because God is holding you to your vow. This concept is damaging and harmful to abuse victims.
Note: There are other ministries that follow the 2equal1 materials though they may have different names. One such example is the: standforyourmarriage.org website. See our Marriage Ministries tag.
Voddie Baucham, pastor and author
Like John Piper, Baucham is a permanence view teacher (no divorce ever). See our Voddie Baucham tag.
His book Divorce: A Gift of God’s Love (2002) claims that word meanings are the key to untangling the knotty passages about divorce. Click here to read why this idea is not true.