Articles on Naghmeh Abedini, who is bravely exposing the abusive behaviour of her husband, Pastor Saeed Abedini
Naghmeh Abedini is bravely exposing her husband Saeed Abedini’s abusive behaviour. We haven’t yet had time to write our own post on the Abedini case. But here are some articles on it which we recommend.
Chad Estes: Welcome Home Saeed. We are sorry, but there won’t be a parade
(scroll down to part three of this post, where Chad strongly defends and supports Naghmeh)
Spiritual Sounding Board: Pastor Saeed Abedini Releases a Public Statement Denying Abuse Allegations Against His Wife
Divorce Minister: Naghmeh Abedini And Sorting My Painful History
UPDATE 1 (5 Feb USA time) — I (Barb) am adding two new articles from the Idaho Statesman.
Saeed Abedini beaten in prison, had use of cellphone much of the time The Idaho Stateman, written by John Sowell, Feb 4, 2016
Here is a quote from this article:
Q: Did he [Saeed] have access to a cellphone in prison?
Naghmeh Abedini wrote last month on her Facebook page that Saeed was able to use his phone after he had been in prison for six months. Naghmeh said she talked with him six to eight hours a day at times. She also said he used his smartphone to watch movies using Naghmeh’s Amazon account and viewed pornography on his phone.
Saeed has not addressed that accusation, other than to say some public allegations about him are not true. But other sources say access to phones inside prisons in Iran is far from unheard of.
In a first-person account for Time magazine, Matthew Trevithick, who was among four other Americans released at the same time as Abedini, said he was able to use his phone during his 41 days at Evin Prison. Saeed spent the first year and a half of his sentence at the same Tehran prison.
In a story published online in December on IranWire, which relies on citizen journalists to report on events in Iran, reporter Fereshteh Nasehi said phones were popular among prisoners at Rajaei Shahr Prison outside Tehran, where Abedini spent his final two years.
“Prisoners who can afford to buy smartphones now spend most of their time online. And the Internet makes access to porn much easier, but, of course, smartphones must remain hidden from prison guards,” Nasehi wrote.
Abedini domestic violence incident in 2007 triggered by laptop argument, The Idaho Statesman, written by John Sowell, Feb 4 2016
Here is a quote from that article:
Last week, the Idaho Statesman reported that Saeed pleaded guilty to domestic battery following a July 2007 incident at the couple’s West Boise home. The Statesman this week obtained a copy of the incident report from the Boise Police Department, following a public records request.
It reveals that Saeed Abedini got into an argument with his wife and shoved her several times during an incident at the couple’s West Boise home on July 1, 2007.
The argument came while Saeed, then 27, was speaking with family members. Naghmeh, then 30, got upset at something he told his family and tried to close the laptop computer he was using to talk with them, Saeed told police.
A description of the argument was redacted in the copy of the report provided to the newspaper.
Naghmeh — who was holding her daughter, Rebekka, then 10 months old — told police that her husband “pushed her several times” and forced her out of the room. Naghmeh said Saeed pushed her in the neck and upper chest, and the officer, Erik Tiner, now a sergeant, reported seeing a “slight amount of redness” in that area, according to his report.
“He told me that he told her to get out of the room and made hand gestures indicating that he pushed her,” Tiner wrote. “I asked him if he pushed her and he denied doing so.”
Naghmeh told Tiner that Saeed threatened to beat her up if she did not leave the room. She also claimed that she had previously been the victim of domestic violence when the couple lived in Iran. She told Saeed she would call police if it happened again, she told Tiner.
Saeed told Tiner that Naghmeh pushed him as she attempted to close the laptop. She denied touching him, according to the report.
When Tiner asked what she wanted done, Naghmeh told him that “she wanted him to go to jail for domestic battery.” She then signed a criminal citation.
Saeed was arrested that day and taken to the Ada County Jail. Following a video arraignment the following day, he was released on his own recognizance.
During court proceedings, Saeed was assisted by an interpreter who spoke Farsi, the Persian language of Iran.
Saeed initially pleaded not guilty to the misdemeanor charge, but changed his plea to guilty on Jan. 25, 2008, according to court records. He was given a suspended 90-day jail sentence and fined $76. He was placed on probation for a year by Ada County Magistrate Michael Oths.
Saeed was also ordered to attend eight hours of sessions on anger management. He completed that requirement before entering his guilty plea, records show.
I grieve for the position in which Naghmeh now finds herself. Franklin Graham, perhaps the most prominent public evangelical figure of our era, has stated publicly that there are “two sides” to the story, and her husband, Saeed, has publicly accused her of lying. Meanwhile, both of them have positioned the restoration of the couple’s marriage as a victory from God and the destruction of their marriage as a victory for Satan. In other words, if Naghmeh decides to make the separation permanent, she will have allowed Satan to win. Think, for a moment, about the impossible position in which that puts Naghmeh.
There’s something else to note in Saeed’s positioning as well. Evangelical women typically lose any hope they might have for their community’s support in leaving an abusive husband when that husband professes to be actively working to listen to and submit to God. As long as her husband says he is working on his relationship with God and that he wants to fix the marriage, an evangelical woman will typically be seen as the one destroying a marriage if she leaves, even if her husband is actively abusing her. Saeed has positioned himself as the reasonable one, the one listening to God and dedicated to restoring his marriage. This perfectly positions Naghmeh as the unreasonable one, the one willing to flee in the face of God’s efforts at restoration and destroy a marriage.
UPDATE 3: (added here Feb 7 2016 USA time)
For the Continuing Naghmeh Doubters: Yes, Saeed Really Did Plead Guilty — The Wartburg Watch, Jan 31 2016. This post shows the Case History document from the Idaho Court.
Vetting, Accountability, Licensing, and Promoting for Pastor Saeed Abedini: Exploring What Went Wrong and How — Spiritual Sounding Board, Feb 2, 2016
UPDATE 4 (added here Feb 9th)
UPDATE 5 (added here Feb 14)
The Heroic Abuser? Christian Media Headlines about Saeed and Naghmeh Abedini — Valerie Hobbs and Mark A Garcia, Lydia Centre
UPDATE 6: (added here 16 Feb USA time)
The Abuse from Saeed Apparently Continues Feb 15, 2016 — Chad Estes, The Captain’s Blog
Saeed Abedini, Franklin Graham, and the Manipulative Abuse of Couples Counseling Feb 16, 2016 — Libby Anne, Love Joy Feminism
Naghmeh Abedini and Responding to Marital Abuse — Virginia Knowles, Watch The Shepherd
Pastor Abedini and the Double Standard of Abuse Jan 31 2016 — Ashley Easter
UPDATE 7 (added here Feb 22, 2016)
There is nothing much different about the Abedini Case, except that the parties are already known as public figures — Jeff Crippen, on the ACFJ Facebook page, Feb 17, 2016.
UPDATE 8 (added here April 5, 2016)
Pastor Saeed Abedini says his life is harder now than when he was being held hostage in an Iranian prison because of the media attention surrounding the troubles in his marriage and “false accusations” against him.
UPDATE 9 (added here May 1, 2016)
Resource Bibliography on the Saeed and Naghmeh Abedini Situation — Spiritual Sounding Board, compiled by Brad/Futurist Guy
UPDATE 10 (added here May 5, 2016)
Challenging Christianity Today’s Interview with Saeed Abidini (a 3-part series by Brad Futurist Guy, at Spiritual Sounding Board)
UPDATE 11 (added here May 11 2016)
What We Can Learn from Christianity Today’s Interview with Saeed Abedini by Dr Christy Sim
Note: we strongly endorse this article by Dr Sim, but we do not necessarily endorse other things she may have written.
UPDATE 12 (added April 9 2017)
Saeed Abedini’s Strange Online Behavior by Spiritual Sounding Board