A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

The Abuser as a Picture of Satan, Part 2

[June 10, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.]

(You can read Part 1 here.)

Satan was created a beautiful, privileged being.

You were the signet of perfection, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty.  (Ezekiel 28:12)

But then a defect was found in him.

You were blameless in your ways
from the day you were created,
till unrighteousness was found in you.
In the abundance of your trade
you were filled with violence in your midst, and you sinned;
so I cast you as a profane thing from the mountain of God,
and I destroyed you, O guardian cherub,
from the midst of the stones of fire.
Your heart was proud because of your beauty;
you corrupted your wisdom for the sake of your splendor….  (Ezekiel 28:15-17)

Satan was proud, full of violence, and he said “I will be like God”.

You said in your heart,
‘I will ascend to heaven;
above the stars of God
I will set my throne on high;
I will sit on the mount of assembly
in the far reaches of the north;
I will ascend above the heights of the clouds;
I will make myself like the Most High.’  (Isaiah 14:13-14)

He felt entitled to the power of God. So God threw him down (Luke 10:18). Everywhere that Satan appears in the Bible, he is full of tricks and a supreme attitude of entitlement. He becomes enraged when he is not worshiped. He makes demands for creation to bow down to him. It is his defining characteristic.

In the book of Esther, when the evil Haman is plotting against Mordecai, notice what triggers his violence:

And when Haman saw that Mordecai did not bow down or pay homage to him, Haman was filled with fury.  (Esther 3:5)

Now notice what triggers the violence of Nebuchadnezzar:

….be it known to you, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up.” Then Nebuchadnezzar was filled with fury, and the expression of his face was changed against Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. He ordered the furnace heated seven times more than it was usually heated.  (Daniel 3:18-19)

Evil men become enraged when they are not obeyed or worshiped. Then they punish those that offend their sense of entitlement and power. The message is “Bow down to me OR ELSE”.

Here is Satan’s breathtaking entitlement when he tempts Jesus:

Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. And he said to him, “All these I will give you, if you will fall down and worship me.”  (Matthew 4:8-9)

First there is the ridiculous false promise that Satan gives Jesus. Does Satan really have ownership of creation, that it would be his “right” to give it away? That would be directly in opposition to Deut 10:14. Perhaps Satan knows it is a false promise but he doesn’t care. He is a liar, after all, right? Secondly there is the craving for power. He wants Jesus to “fall down” and worship him. Not only that, but he feels entitled to make this demand on the very Son of God! Who witnessed Satan’s own creation! This attitude is breathtaking, yes? To normal people, perhaps. But not to Satan. And not to the abusive man or woman — because they are little “satans”. The abuser’s mentality comes straight from the pit of hell.

But God has already exposed him:

All who know you among the peoples are appalled at you; you have come to a dreadful end and shall be no more forever.”  (Ezekiel 28:19)
[Emphasis added.]

All who (truly) know the Abuser are APPALLED. Everyone who comes into intimate contact with an abuser recoils in horror! Think of Jezebel, when she finally met her end. The new king rode through the gates and looked up at the evil queen, standing in her window. And he called out to her own palace guards — the eunuchs — and said “Who is on my side?”. Jezebel’s own guards, who knew her intimately, gave no indication of hesitance. When King Jehu said to them “Throw her down” — they immediately laid hands on her and threw her out the window.  (2 Kings 9:32-33)

They knew her. And they were appalled.

The Word of God is a lamp unto our feet — Amen!

[June 10, 2022: Editors’ notes:

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Posts in this series

Part 1: The Abuser as a Picture of Satan

Part 2: Is this post.


  1. MeganC

    This is excellent, Katy. I had never thought about how ridiculous it was for Satan to give the impression that he had it within him to GIVE to Jesus . . . the Creator of all things! Crazy sauce! It really IS ridiculous when a person feigns lordship over another when they are not the Lord. We are only to be controlled by the Spirit . . .

  2. lauralee

    I need prayer, PLEASE! I am married to a spawn of satan. I have left him 2 times and only returning due to financial reasons…he controls all money. My nightmare began right after the honeymoon. I discovered porn on his computer. This mild, gentle, sensitive godly man turned into an evil monster throwing in my face all the heartaches I shared with him during our dating period. We turned to a pastor, who focused on my past abuse history, nothing about the verbal and emotional abuse unleashed on me. Two counselors that colluded with him. (BTW, I have a counseling degree and have worked in the field of substance abuse and mental illness, so I know about ethical standards), both of these so called Christian counselors way over stepped ethical boundaries and placed me in great danger, convincing my husband that it my past history of abuse that is the main problem. I also suffer with CPTSD. I have shared my story at length with several well qualified therapists that understand narcissism and DV, they all are appalled at what has happened and all urged me to turn these therapists in. My husband has continued to see these therapists even after evidence of their incompetence’s and abuse of me. He is a pharmacist and is extremely intelligent and crafty. I have read Lundy Bancroft’s book Why Does He do That. I have read it over and over to hold onto my sanity, now that I have Jeff’s book and Barbara’s and this website, I hold onto all of you everyday for my sanity. I used to work as a therapist (s I mentioned). I, too, have written a book, have been on radio programs, have been a guest speaker several times in different settings, I once was a competent, respected, sought after woman by those who needed answers and direction, now, I am a shadow of a woman, struggling to hold onto my sanity. I have ended up in the hospital twice with suicidal ideation. I am much better than I was, thanks to competent knowledgeable therapists that have helped me with the CPTSD and have told me the truth……it is NOT me, I am married to a very sick narcissistic abuser that wants me to be sick so he can control and dominate me.
    The only way I have not succumbed to suicide is the strength of Jesus through His Spirit. I am amazed that after all I have endured all my life, I am still here to tell my story. I am sickened by the abuses in the church and the good ol’ boys club that keeps it hidden while we women and children suffer at their hands……..I[m sorry for being so long winded, but I really needed to reach out to all of you, I am pretty lonely as not many people to talk to that really understand what I’ve been living with. My prayer is that for every tear cried because of abuse, a soul will be reached and saved. Please pray for me as I am attempting to write another book about my journey. Jeff and Barbara, can I use some of your work in my book? thanks again for everyone’s comments, encouragement and prayers as we are all in this war together……..Laura Lee

    • otter

      Lauralee, this is heartbreaking. I would contact a local women’s abuse shelter if you have no friends or family to support you until you can get on your own feet. Truthfully, now that I’m out of abuse, it would be better to stay in a shelter temporarily than to subject yourself to more evil. They can also recommend legal support. Praying for you. No one should live like this.

    • Lauralee, I will pray.
      And I want to echo the good counselors: You are not to blame; it is not your fault; you are not going crazy, you are being abused by a wicked wicked man, and by some very bad counselors. and a bad pastor.

    • daddysdaughter2

      Laura Lee,
      We are all praying for you. There surely must be a way out for you. I am praying that in prayer and reflection, God will bring His creative thoughts and ideas to you of options you actually do have available. I am praying you will find some dear women who will emotionally support you and meet with you. It has helped me tremendously to have a few close friends that regularly helped me to know that I was not going crazy. God created us for living in loving community. Beseech Him to show you who your loving community is around you. It might take a leap of faith to be transparent.

      Written with the love of your Heavenly Father for your precious life.

    • Katy

      Too bad there isn’t a “like” button on here so I can thumbs up everyone’s comments! we need a blinking flashing icon that says “you are not crazy, he is satan’s spawn” 😦

  3. Wisdomchaser

    I’m going to throw this out there and see what people think. I have always had a problem with the book of Job. It just didn’t seem like a real picture of God. I was thinking about it a while back and realized it did seem to be a picture of an abusive family. Satan is the abuser, God is the co-denpendent parent, Job is a young abused child, his friends are also children, his wife may actually represent a sibling and his children are actually just his toys along with his possessions.

    If a co-dependent parent brags about their child and the abuser doesn’t like it, for whatever reason, the child is being set up for abuse. The toys are destroyed along with the other possessions and then replaced by the co-dependent parent. This always disturbed me greatly when I thought of the story representing God. Does God really think “I’ll just replace all you lost and it will be fine?” Job’s wife doesn’t seem overly concerned with losing all her children as far as I remember. I would be a sobbing wreck and probably never get over it. She just seems angry, “curse God and die.” I suppose that could be a valid response to grief.

    The long conversations between Job and his friends seem immature. Are they children trying to make sense of this traumatic event of Job’s abuse? Was the rantings of God at the end of the story just a co-dependent parent trying to justify their lack of protection and
    make Job shut up and “deal with it?”

    I decided to stop reading Job a long time ago. It didn’t seem to fit the good, loving God we are taught about. I still haven’t read it since coming up with this theory. So, I may not be remembering the details correctly. If I’m totally out to lunch that’s OK. In that case, I’ll just continue to ignore the book of Job.

    • Still Scared( but getting angry)

      I sort of see what you are saying. I never quite understood why God allowed Job to walk through what he did. That being said, Henry Morris wrote a great commentary on Job and what I took away from it and Job is that we, as believers are to be involved in studying biology and chemistry, all of creation and learning how God’s creation works. He gave a similar task to Adam at the beginning and we need to heed it.

  4. Wisdomchaser

    Thank you for your comment. I am not familiar with Morris’ commentary on Job so I can’t say anything about it. I agree that everybody should have a basic knowledge of science inculding biology and chemistry. I am homeschooling my grandson and we just concluded a semester of physics. In the fall we will start astronomy. I looking forward to that.

    • Still Scared( but getting angry)

      I loved, loved the book “Signs and Seasons” by Ryan for astronomy. Three cheers for homeschooling.

  5. Finding Answers

    Katy quoted:

    You said in your heart,
    ‘I will ascend to heaven;
    above the stars of God
    I will set my throne on high;
    I will sit on the mount of assembly
    in the far reaches of the north;
    I will ascend above the heights of the clouds;
    I will make myself like the Most High.’ Isaiah 14:13-14

    And Jesus replied,

    Luke 6:45 (NMB)

    …..And an evil man, out of the evil treasure of his heart, brings forth that which is evil. For out of the abundance of the heart, his mouth speaks.

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