The Abuser as a Picture of Satan
Just as Moses, Abraham, and Boaz were pictures of the Christ to come – so too is the Abuser a picture of the devil. Because the Abuser is a very pure form of sin and evil, he is a photograph of the face of Satan. How many survivors can remember their abuser standing before them with eyes full of hatred, violence, and yet a peculiar empty void? I can remember when I was dating my ex, I noticed that he did not share many deep thoughts, opinions, or feelings that were individual to him. I assumed that he was just a very “internal” person. That perhaps he just kept some things to himself.
By the time the honeymoon was over, I came to know how deceived I had been. This man never pondered anything,
Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Proverbs 4:26
I will ponder the way that is blameless.
Oh when will you come to me?
I will walk with integrity of heart
within my house Psalm 101:2
— unless he was pondering ways to crush and accuse me.
He was void of anything pure and good. The only things that came out of him (behind closed doors) were lies, deception, hatred, accusations, oppression, threats, and porn addiction. And yet on the surface, he appeared to be a charming and nice person who sat in the church pews on Sunday. His hatred was covered with deception:
though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. Proverbs 26:26
Then he showed me Joshua the high priest standing before the angel of the Lord, and Satan standing at his right hand to accuse him. Zech 3:1
You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44
One thing in particular that I noticed about my husband was that he loved war documentaries about Hitler. At first I believed that he was just a “history buff”, who enjoyed watching the History Channel every chance he got. After a while, however, I was fascinated and unnerved by the fact that he only seemed riveted by Hitler and WWII (and perhaps Stalin and Mao). He was not nearly as entertained by the Civil War and the end of slavery, for example. After watching my husband sitting through the same documentaries about Hitler over and over, without showing any sign of being affected by the information, I began asking him questions.
“How can you watch this over and over? It makes me so depressed and sad!” – his answer was only a shrug of his shoulders.
Sometimes I would try harder. “What are you thinking about this [footage of the Jewish massacre]?” – again, no real response other than a shrug of his shoulders.
I knew what I was living with, but nobody would have believed it. My now ex husband is still to this day a respected person with a government job and a high security clearance, and he attends a large church with his new wife. Ponder that for a moment, my friends.
But then ponder this:
Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the works of the devil. 1 John 3:8
Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. 1 John 4:4
Christ in you is greater than the one that dwells in your Abuser. Therefore the victory is, and will forever be, yours. Consider the fact that just as Job was hand-selected by God to meet Satan’s worst testing (Job 2:3), you are one of the brethren who was elected to meet Satan’s worst in this present age. You have met the Evil One, in all of his self-administered glory.
There must be a future purpose for that. Job was a righteous man, but after all of these tests he was even more refined: he gave his daughters an inheritance equal to his sons! Likewise you will be forged into something that more closely reflects the image of God. (James 1:2)
The story of your life has a blockbuster ending, sweet friends!
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