A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Not Under Bondage – Barbara Roberts’ solo website

[Update Nov. 4/21: This post about Barb’s old solo Not Under Bondage website has had it’s links changed to Internet Archive links. Some of these articles, etc. (some of which have been modified or updated) can now be found on ACFJ. Barb’s new solo Not Under Bondage website can be found here. Editors.]

There are those who “get it” about domestic abuse, and those who don’t. How do we shift people from the place of incomprehension to comprehension? Often the transition occurs when a person experiences domestic abuse at close quarters: either because they get abused themselves, or because they are a friend or family member of a victim.

Jeff Crippen woke up to domestic abuse by encountering abusers in his church – some were abusing vulnerable people in the congregation (like children); others were directly abusing Jeff (having softened him up beforehand by winning his respect, friendship and trust). Another way a pastor can wake up is when his own daughter gets subjected to domestic abuse. The suffering of daddy’s daughter becomes the catalyst for her father to wake up.

But although domestic abuse is widespread (and other varieties of abuse are also widespread) not everyone will have personal experience of it. Some folk may feel sympathetic and want to put their shoulder to the wheel in the cause for justice, but feel they lack personal experience up close.  Here is where survivor stories can be so powerful.

I’ve maintained a website for years on domestic abuse and Christianity. I set it up as a standard website where readers could read but not interact or comment (those were the old days of the internet pre blogging, or was I just behind the times and timid about using blogging technology?). I have stories from survivors on the site, but  was thrilled when an anonymous survivor sent me an audio-visual piece that depicts the experience of being victimised by an intimate partner.  It’s creative, emotional, moving, challenging and powerful, and it has a reasonably happy ending. I hope you like Through the Eyes of a Battered Woman [Internet Archive link] [The Internet Archived video won’t play, but the link was added for historical purposes as no other copy of the video that would play could be found. Editors.] as much as I do, and that your readers can use it to enlighten others about what domestic abuse is like.

I also have many other things on my [old solo] site [Internet Archive link] that may be useful for your readers. Here is a small selection:

Domestic abuse training for busy pastors [Internet Archive link]

Why didn’t you leave? [Internet Archive link]

Unhelpful comments and how to respond to them [Internet Archive link]

Checklist for repentance [Internet Archive link]

Still married in the sight of God? [Internet Archive link]

Are you walking on eggshells? [Internet Archive link] (a flyer to encourage victims)

Critique of CBMW’s Statement on Abuse

7 Comments

  1. Thanks Barbara! Good stuff there~

  2. Jon J. Cardwell

    Reblogged this on Justification by Grace [This link is broken and we were unable to find a copy in the Internet Archives. Editors.] and commented:
    Although I have never met her personally, Barbara Roberts has been a blessing to me (because she has been a blessing to so many others), and though our interaction has been sparse and confined to the Internet, she has become a friend and a dear sister in Christ of the first order. She provides a ‘guest article’ on Pastor Jeff Crippen’s blog, A Cry For Justice, and when you go to read this article… YOU MUST SEE THE VIDEO that Barbara links on the blog post, “Through the Eyes of a Battered Woman”. I know that I would have been weeping nearly uncontrollably had it not been for God’s grace in Christ; and for the fact that I was actually physically sickened by grief over the gravity of this subject. Thank you, Barbara. Thank you, Jeff.

  3. James Synot

    Cannot help but recommend Barb’s site. There is just too many women submitted to all sorts of abuse. From domestic violence to spiritual and all the ones in between, these perpetrators must be exposed.If you are subject or think you are subjected, please start exposing these dogs. A good way to start is subscribing to this blog and Barb’s.
    I, by the way, am a survivor.

    • Jeff Crippen

      Thank you James! That is very encouraging to us and we hope you keep visiting us here.

  4. James Synot

    Forgot to tick the notify me box!

  5. Now Free After 42 Years

    I just finished watching Through the Eyes of a Battered Woman, and wept. Being also physically, verbally and emotionally abused, I truly feel for this woman.

    I left my to be ex husband exactly 5 months ago..October 25, 2011. Every day I am confident that God led me to this decision. I never had any regrets at all about leaving, but it is not an easy road to travel at times. With God’s guidance, there will be some bumps along the way, but they are learning curves, and I welcome them.

    Thanks for your site, Barbara. I plan to refer to it often. I had read your book, and it encouraged me and provided validation.

  6. Thanks everyone for your comments. So glad the resources are helpful.

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