Abusers usually portray themselves as victims, as most of our readers are well aware. Are there any distinguishing marks of a pretend victim as opposed to a true victim of domestic abuse? I began thinking about this because of a comment that one of our readers, Nyssa, made in another post. Here's what she said:… Continue reading Marks of a pretend victim versus a true victim
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Converting statements into questions – a skill for bystanders who want to help victims of abuse
Those who seek to help survivors of abuse often find their well-intentioned remarks fall like lead balloons. The survivors don't respond with alacrity, gratitude or even (sometimes) civility. What causes this mismatch? Why are so many well-intentioned comments received so poorly? What's the static on the line causing this interference? Being a survivor myself and… Continue reading Converting statements into questions – a skill for bystanders who want to help victims of abuse
