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Stockholm Syndrome, codependency and other labels used to pathologize, blame and discredit victims.

There are many labels used to pathologise, blame and discredit victims: Stockholm Syndrome battered women’s syndrome learned helplessness codependency traumatic bonding re-enactment of trauma repetition compulsion women choose abusive men women unconsciously attract abusive men The concept of “Stockholm Syndrome” has become a ‘received truth’ in the mental health field. It shifts the focus away …

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The Myth of “Stockholm Syndrome” and other labels which are used to discredit and pathologize victims of abuse

[June 15, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] When I first read about “Stockholm Syndrome” I was delighted because it seemed to explain some of my feelings and thoughts towards my husband when I was married to …

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Are Abuse Victims Codependent?

The term codependent is often used to describe the relationship between victims of abuse and their abusers, whether the description is made by a counselor, therapist, friend, or an author. It is easy to find online articles that link codependency and domestic abuse. For example, one article I found is titled, “DOMESTIC ABUSE: C is for Codependency” …

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Interview with Catherine DeLoach Lewis (part 2)

[April 1, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] In Part Two of my interview with Catherine DeLoach Lewis, I asked her about co-dependency, and what she has seen in her work with survivors who are trying to …

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Second-Wave Locusts

One of the most difficult things that  a survivor of domestic abuse can do is learn to bloom. After being a stay at home mom in a dark and dismal home . . . living day in and day out believing I was worth little . . . it has been difficult to learn to …

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The Old Man Fallacy as an Excuse for Abuse in Independent Fundamental Baptist Theology

UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, …

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