church response to abuse – Page 181

Let’s Put This “But he hasn’t physically abused you” Nonsense to Rest Once and For All

22nd August 201413th July 2023 Jeff Crippen69 Comments

Listen to these far too common words from a pastor to an abused wife who has gone to him for help. The abuse has occurred for decades, habitually, without repentance: From what I have been told, you have suggested that your husband's looking at inappropriate images on the internet is adultery, but he has not… Continue reading Let’s Put This “But he hasn’t physically abused you” Nonsense to Rest Once and For All

What do you say when a friend tells you, “You have a victim mentality.”

11th August 201413th May 2023 Barbara Roberts25 Comments

I would reply to that friend, “What do you mean by a ‘victim mentality’?” Once your friend defines what she means, you can then take it from there. If she means you complain about the injustice with which your abuser has mistreated you, ask her if it is a sin to make such complaint. If she… Continue reading What do you say when a friend tells you, “You have a victim mentality.”