The abuser sees; he just disagrees. He knows he is doing wrong; he just doesn’t care.

Many people think that the abuser can’t see his sins, so he needs to be shown them. But the abuser sees, he just disagrees. The abuser knows what he does is wrong, he just doesn’t care. He believes he’s entitled to do it. And he’s very dedicated to that belief. He wants to keep it. And… Continue reading The abuser sees; he just disagrees. He knows he is doing wrong; he just doesn’t care.

The Explaining Trap

When having a conversation with an abuser, the abuser often tries to get you to fall into the explaining trap. It is a trap because no matter how much you explain things to the abuser, the abuser will pretend to not understand or not accept your explanations. And he will keep challenging and criticizing your… Continue reading The Explaining Trap