The abuser sees; he just disagrees. He knows he is doing wrong; he just doesn’t care.
Many people think that the abuser can’t see his sins, so he needs to be shown them.
But the abuser sees, he just disagrees. The abuser knows what he does is wrong, he just doesn’t care. He believes he’s entitled to do it. And he’s very dedicated to that belief. He wants to keep it. And he goes to great lengths to resist dropping it. He lies in a thousand ways to conceal how much he wants to maintain his belief that he’s entitled to abuse others. He loves his lies; they keep his fortress safe.
Revelation 22:15 speaks about those who love and practice falsehood. So Christians shouldn’t deny that there are people like this. Abusers don’t just utter a lie here or there; they practice falsehood as a way of life, as a full-body disguise. This is exactly what the domestic abuser or the skilled sexual molester does. His lying involves going to great lengths to make himself an object of pity and to throw up many smokescreens so that people don’t see his belief and how entrenched it is.
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