Meredith Miller on abuse dynamics — from the micro to the macro level.
Meredith Miller is a trauma coach. She teaches the mindsets, skills and actions to help people recover after relational trauma.
In this video she talks about cognitive dissonance, emotional short-circuiting, trauma-based mind control, and awakening to the fact that you are being abused.
She describes how having power over others is addictive. The abuser wants to repeat the thrill of wielding power and control over others. In order to get the same thrill, the abuser will become more and more abusive over time. He cannot stop his slide into deeper wickedness. It is inevitable.
She discusses the similarities between inter-personal abuse at the micro level (one person abusing another) and systemic abuse right up to the macro level… families, social groups, cults, society at large.
For victims, she recommends the relentless facing of reality (writing a ‘sobriety list’). But the person has to want to know the truth. You cannot make a victim wake up. Awakening is always spontaneous — it’s a visceral experience.
Trigger warning. What Meredith says may trigger memories of abuse, or it may challenge some of your ideas about what is going on in the world.
I’m keen to hear your responses to Meredith’s presentation. I’m open to all your thoughts and responses. Please be kind to me and to other readers. We can have different opinions and perspectives but still be respectful to each other.
Meredith Miller is interviewed by Viviane Fischer and Reiner Fuellmich, Nov 12, 2021. (Meredith’s name is mis-spelled on the screen.)
I’ll end this post with two scriptures that came to mind as I was watching the video.
There is a spirit of addiction to delusion in the wilderness. (Jeremiah 4:11 ABP)
Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed on him, If you continue in my words, then you are my very disciples, and shall know the truth; and the truth shall make you free. (John 8:31-32 NMB)
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