Abusers Are Consistently Inconsistent — A Favorite and Evil Tactic
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
But to what shall I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling to their playmates, “‘We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.” For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, “He has a demon.” The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, “Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!” Yet wisdom is justified by her deeds. (Matthew 11:16-19)
Evil crazy-makes. Evil loves the fog of darkness. And one way evil-doers (abusers we call them) consistently employ their sorcery is to put on superficial inconsistency. Let me explain and illustrate.
You see it in our Lord’s words above. No matter what He did or said, these enemies rejected Him. Criticized Him. If His prophet John came to them in the wilderness dressed like Elijah, they accused him of being a demon-possessed mad-man. Alright then, Christ comes to them in freedom and they call Him a glutton and drunkard. They don’t like the flute music, but they also reject the dirge. All of this certainly confused people back in those days because it seemed so inconsistent. Just what did these Jews want anyway? What did they consider to be godly behavior? What was their theology?
So it is today. As always. Abusers reject the flute and the dirge. What is consistent is that they reject, accuse, and criticize. Many of you have seen and even experienced this. On one occasion a woman wearing pants might be the object of their ire, but on another occasion they will have no problem with some clothing that is truly immodest. They will vociferously attack some author, then defend him enthusiastically in another setting. They will preach servile submission today, yet rebel against the governing authorities tomorrow. Who are they? What do they really believe?
I can tell you.
What these people are is wicked. They are deceivers. What they do consistently is take up a position that opposes their victim and makes themselves look good. There is the unifying thread that explains them. Consistent inconsistency. They have their radar on, perpetually scanning the horizon for conversations and scenarios that they can jump into for self-glory. The thing is really rather amazing when you understand it and observe it. So naturally does it come to them. They love to keep people guessing. “Where will they land on this issue?” “Take care, or you will be the object of their scorn.” This is what they are all about.
This is entirely evil. It is wickedness creeping in among us. We must be wise to it and confront it. Creeps such as this must not be allowed to practice this evil in the name of Christ. Stop it. Repent of it. Or depart from us. Your game is up. We see you. Your magic ring doesn’t make you invisible anymore.