Domestic Abusers and Demonization
This query from Sunflower was submitted in a comments thread (link). We are making it a stand-alone post as from my observation, the question or possibility of the abuser being demonized — influenced and to some degree under the power or control of a demon or demons — is an important issue for some survivors of domestic abuse. I have heard accounts from a number of survivors who report that their abuser displayed very bizarre behavior on occasion, which might have been related to demonization.
Please bear in mind that while opening up this topic in a post, we are not implying that all domestic abusers are demonized, or that all domestic abuse has demonic cause. We do not subscribe to such black and white thinking. Abusers choose to abuse. That is our position. But perhaps some have also chosen to give such place to the devil that they have to some extent given themselves over to demonic control.
Here is Sunflower’s story
I’m married to my second covert abuser…….25 years the first time, eight years single, now another nine years to another.
So about 5 years ago we went to a Caring For The Heart ministry for counseling. On about the third day the couple who was counseling us was praying for my husband and suddenly he curled up in a fetal position and started talking and mumbling …. two very different voices talking to each other. One I couldn’t understand and the other was saying, “NO! Go away!” with hand gestures as if shooing away something/someone.
The husband counselor knelt by him and wrote down what he was saying and then they prayed for him for about 15 minutes and then all was ‘normal’ again. Now this was just a normal counseling, nothing of this sort was expected.
Then months later there were a few times when we would try to pray together (he avoids doing that but sometimes will) and he (hubby) said he just wasn’t getting anywhere, that all he was hearing was evil laughter and voices saying, “I won’t let you go.” “You’re mine.”
I’m wondering if anyone else has seen this sort of thing or has thoughts about what to do.
My son recently recommended the book “Healing the Family Tree” by Dr. Kenneth McAll, written in 1956 by a doctor/psychologist/missionary, which talks about this so I wonder if God is directing here.
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We have not vetted the following link in detail, but I (Barb Roberts) am appending it here in case it is useful for some readers. The Apologetics Index site it comes from has a reasonably sound reputation as far as I am aware, in discernment type ministry.