A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Informational Post – An Excellent New Interview of Barbara Roberts on YouTube

UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.


Mark Brown interviewed Barbara today and posted the interview on YouTube.  Here is the link. Top notch stuff!


  1. Debbie Price

    Thank You, Barbara for the insight and standing up for the Truth!!

  2. AJ

    That was great!! So fun to hear your accent!

    • It was great talking with Mark, a fellow Aussie! (even though he does say banAIna, not banahna, because he’s now living in the USA 🙂 )

  3. lydia

    Thanks for articulating the verse in Malachi. Good stuff!

    I wonder if anyone hear has ever read this book, “I Promise to Hate, Despise and Abuse You till Death Do Us Part”:

    I Promise to Hate, Despise, and Abuse You until Death Do Us Part Marriage in a Narcissistic Age

    I did and it was excellent.

    • Barnabasintraining

      Oooo. This looks good!

    • Anonymous

      Tell us about it, Lydia, if you can. It looks good and clearly states the vow an abuser takes when they marry. ; )

  4. otter

    Thank you, Barbara, for this clear and honest video. I’ve been distressed that two church members have made one of my abused friends second guess leaving (for the 2nd time). Both people definitely don’t understand abuse. The first comment from one, “Is she (the victim) telling the truth? The next advice was, “If you don’t feel you are in physical danger now, you should return to him.” This was after multiple episodes of physical abuse…and definitely severe emotional abuse abuse and crazy-making. Apparently, the abuser had made “progress” and learned to control himself better. Unfortunately, the church members failed to see he still is abusing her all day day long with his controlling, entitled behavior. These well-meaning people are condemning her to a life of misery…and delivering her over to to an evil man. Our churches desperately need more education on what abuse is. People continue to try to relate to a victim through their own relationship experience. They fail to understand true mental illness and personality disorders. They fail to understand that the usual relationship advice will be twisted and perverted by an abusive personality.

    Thank you for your efforts to end the suffering of so many victims who have been silenced and left unheard and misunderstood.

  5. Anonymous

    That was absolutely fantastic! So well done and helps so much, just to have small clips like this one, to remind me. This is a very good one for anyone who makes claim that “God hates divorce”. We could link those people or invite them over and let them listen to it. Great work Barb, and love, love, love the accent!

  6. Still Scared( but getting angry)

    Just wanted to tell you I had shared this on FB and it really, really blessed a friend from church. She was almost in tears when she told me how much she needed to hear this today.

  7. Katy

    oh – yay!! great job!

  8. fiftyandfree

    Thank you Barbara for continuing to spread the word; Abused spouses are free to leave. They are not required by God to suffer endlessly. I read with sadness the comments from some of the women still suffering and I feel their pain because I lived it for 12 years. I pray that many, many victims will be set free with the help of your and Jeff’s work.

    Can I email you a question that I don’t want to put here in case my ex is reading this blog?

    • Jeff Crippen

      50FREE – Barbara is somewhere over the ocean flying back to Oz. But I know she doesn’t mind at all if you email her.

      • fiftyandfree

        Thanks Jeff. My question might be well suited to you with and your experience with churches, so would you mind if I emailed you the same question? Then I can get both of your opinions to ponder and pray about.

        I don’t know if you saw my post recently, but I just finished reading your book. It was such a blessing to me. I truly could not believe that a man could understand the things you understand about what I went through at the hands of my abusive ex. It was so validating and comforting.

        Praying for safety for Barbara as she travels home.

      • Jeff Crippen

        50FREE- sure. Email me too. Glad to hear from you. And the reason I understand abuse is only because the Lord put me through the ringer for 30 years at the hands of abusers in the churches I have pastored. And I still have to keep learning more.

  9. Barnabasintraining

    Ah Barbara!

    What’s not to love? 😀

    That was great!! I hope it goes viral!!

  10. Finding Answers

    (Airbrushing…led here by the Holy Spirit……)

    OK. I am puzzled. Not by Barb’s excellent interview, but to some connections shown to me by the Holy Spirit.

    (Omitting significant details for my protection.)

    First connection, not new. The day my anti-x unexpectedly moved out left me in shock.

    Second connection, not new. My anti-x moved out and filed for divorce after I – unknowingly – had started setting boundaries.

    Third connection, new. I did not dissociate when he faced me with the news. Given what I know of my past history, those circumstances should have triggered a dissociation! The emotional memory fragmentation never happened, so there was no need to re-integrate the memory.

    I don’t know “Why?”….

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