Honouring Resistance – a wonderful resource for understanding abuse
Honouring Resistance: How Women Resist Abuse in Intimate Relationships (34 page PDF) explains that every person resists abuse and that abusers choose their behavior.
Choosing to Change is a companion document to “Honouring Resistance.” it is a handbook for men concerned about maintaining their relationships that might be threatened by abusive behaviour towards those they love.
Both these booklets are produced by the Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter, Canada, and can be downloaded from their site for free.
We have had a link to publications from the Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter on our Resources Page for some time, but I thought it would be good to highlight Honouring Resistance in a special post, because I think it’s such an excellent resource. It gives a victim’s story of domestic abuse, and then explains all the ways she resisted the abuse. Victims find that when they look at their experience from the framework of how they resisted the abuse, rather than the “effects” the abuse had on them, it can be very empowering.
And when supportive family or friends view the victim’s story through the lens of resistance, rather than the lens of “effects”, they understand her much better and are able to support her more effectively. I would guess this would apply to supportive pastors too.
Now I’d like to throw this open for you comments. Please tell us and our readers what you think of Honouring Resistance. (and by the way, honouring does have a “u” because the document comes from Canada and they spell like us Aussies!)