Seeds sown on rocky ground: Lessons about the abuser’s mentality
[July 1, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.]
As for what was sown on rocky ground, this is the one who hears the word and immediately receives it with joy, yet he has no root in himself, but endures for a while, and when tribulation or persecution arises on account of the word, immediately he falls away. (Matthew 13:20-21 ESV)
An abusive husband spread a barrowload of soil and gravel over a concrete path that wasn’t being used in the family’s garden. Result: soil 3-5 inches deep, with solid concrete underneath. Then he sowed some flower seeds in the soil.
When he showed his wife what he’d done, she thought “This is crazy! You gotta be kidding!” but she didn’t say that out loud because she knew it would be irritating to him, so she just praised him for his hard work and achievement. She’d learned a while back not to say anything negative about what he did in the garden, or make any suggestions about how he could improve it. All such comments were taken as offensive criticism and ingratitude.
Here is the result: a picture of Christ’s parable about seeds sown on rocky ground. On the left upper of the picture you can see the plants that have just plain karked (slang for died) it. The rest are slowly dying of thirst.
Solid concrete under the soil. How could anyone think that is conducive to anything growing? But it’s a great illustration of where a farmer / pastor / husband has his mind made up, and goes ahead and does it anyway without consulting the GARDENER.
Since this photo was taken there has been more rain. The dead plants are still dead, but the plants that were dying in this picture are upright and managing to grow a bit (apart from insects eating holes in their leaves). Maybe that’s a good picture of all those unbelievers we have in the church who look fine, when the environment isn’t too testing.
The seeds on rocky ground parable also illustrates many abusers in their “Christian” journey. They may appear to respond to the Gospel at first and show signs of being true believers. But sooner or later the promising signs die away and their character deteriorates (shows its true colours). Their Christian “walk” becomes just a superficial pretence. And it becomes clearer and clearer that they don’t actually have the Spirit of Christ.
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