Excellent Critique Point On RBC DVD Series: “When Love Hurts”
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
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We appended the following critique comment (as a link) to the earlier blog post in which I (Jeff) recommended the Radio Bible Class DVD series, “When Love Hurts”. But I want to post it more visibly here because it is an important point that I totally spaced out on. Here it is —
Well, I just got done watching the RBC videos on the Mending the Soul site. They did a good job on the issue of abuse, per se, and on the issue of what male authority is about. But I found them frustrating because they did not give any examples of the abused woman initiating the divorce. In all the cases they cited, the abuser was the one who refused reconciliation. I do not feel they did an adequate job of giving the woman permission and support in pursuing divorce. I don’t think they will address the need we have here. Honestly, I found their treatment of that matter mushy. I’m not sure from those videos what they actually believe about that. It’s like they discussed everything BUT that.
We all know that abusers very commonly refuse to initiate a divorce. They want to make it look like they are committed to the marriage and that their victim is the divorce-happy culprit. They also don’t divorce because they want to maintain power and control over the victim. The RBC series has a real weakness here and in some situations, showing it to your church for instance, could backfire on you.
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