Excellent Critique Point on RBC dvd Series: When Love Hurts
We appended the following critique comment to the earlier blog post in which I (Jeff) recommended the Radio Bible Class dvd series, When Love Hurts. But I want to post it more visibly here because it is an important point that I totally spaced out. Here it is —
Well, I just got done watching the RBC videos on the Mending the Soul site. They did a good job on the issue of abuse, per se, and on the issue of what male authority is about. But I found them frustrating because they did not give any examples of the abused woman initiating the divorce. In all the cases they cited, the abuser was the one who refused reconciliation. I do not feel they did an adequate job of giving the woman permission and support in pursuing divorce. I don’t think they will address the need we have here. Honestly, I found their treatment of that matter mushy. I’m not sure from those videos what they actually believe about that. It’s like they discussed everything BUT that.
We all know that abusers very commonly refuse to initiate a divorce. They want to make it look like they are committed to the marriage and that their victim is the divorce-happy culprit. They also don’t divorce because they want to maintain power and control over the victim. The RBC series has a real weakness here and in some situations, showing it to your church for instance could backfire on you.