You Are My Sunshine: An Abuser’s Theme Song

There is more than one variation of You Are My Sunshine, but this one will do for our purposes here. Every time I hear this song (as I did this evening, sung by Johnny Cash - who wrote more than one very abuser friendly song by the way), it makes me cringe.  Why? Because though… Continue reading You Are My Sunshine: An Abuser’s Theme Song

Is it Wrong to “Just Believe” Abuse Victims?

One of the best and very first things we can do to help a victim of abuse is to believe them when they come to us and ask for help. And yet with some frequency we see criticism of this point coming our way. "Oh, sure, believe her? How do you know that she isn't… Continue reading Is it Wrong to “Just Believe” Abuse Victims?