How Did We End Up Here? — a new book by George Simon Jr

How Did We End Up Here? — Surviving and Thriving in a Character-Disordered World [Affiliate link] This is a new book by Dr George Simon Jr, PhD. His colleague M. Kathryn Armistead Ph.D is a contributor. It's available in paperback. The link above takes you to where you can buy it on Amazon, but no doubt you can… Continue reading How Did We End Up Here? — a new book by George Simon Jr

Parched for truth — dehydrated — victims appreciate ANY water, but it’s better to give them pure rather than muddy water.

Victims of domestic abuse have been so parched for truth. When we read a teeny bit of truth, we feel like we have had a cup of pure water and we rejoice! But as we develop our discernment about the right and wrong use of language in regards to domestic abuse, we quite often realize that… Continue reading Parched for truth — dehydrated — victims appreciate ANY water, but it’s better to give them pure rather than muddy water.

Thursday Thought — Defending or Stalking

Today's post is highlighting an analogy from our Allegories, Analogies, and Fairy Tales page. Defending or Stalking In his book In Sheep’s Clothing [Affiliate link] George Simon has a wonderful analogy — the difference between a cat that is stalking a mouse (the intentional aggressor) and the cat who is defending itself from a dog… Continue reading Thursday Thought — Defending or Stalking

Are Abuse Victims Codependent?

The term codependent is often used to describe the relationship between victims of abuse and their abusers, whether the description is made by a counselor, therapist, friend, or an author. It is easy to find online articles that link codependency and domestic abuse. For example, one article I found is titled, "DOMESTIC ABUSE: C is for Codependency"… Continue reading Are Abuse Victims Codependent?

Thursday Thought — Charm: A Red Flag

He is so charming! Oh, isn't he charming! How often have victims heard phrases like these used to describe their abuser? Too often, far too often. Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear [Affiliate link], and Dr. George Simon have some informative insight into this common abuser tactic. Take a moment to read… Continue reading Thursday Thought — Charm: A Red Flag

Thursday Thought — Denial vs. Lying

A phenomenon traditionally labeled denial is in essence an unconscious ego defense mechanism.  It's the psyche's natural way of protecting a person's conscious mind from the experience of unbearable emotional pain  It's a "this just can't be happening" kind of reaction to an event or circumstance that occurred too suddenly, with such intensity, or was… Continue reading Thursday Thought — Denial vs. Lying

Thursday Thought — Minimizing Abuse

When he uses the tactic of minimization, the disturbed character is attempting to convince someone else that the wrongful thing he did wasn't really as bad or as harmful as he knows it was and as he knows the other person thinks it was.  He might admit part of what he did was wrong, and… Continue reading Thursday Thought — Minimizing Abuse