How can I help my friend or relative who has been abused?
Respecting & Listening to Victims of Violence: A handbook for those who are supporting women who have been abused by an intimate partner
Resources for Family and Friends
Resources for Supporters of Victims of Domestic Abuse
Books for Supporters of Survivors
Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families & Friends of Abused Women [*Affiliate link]
by Susan Brewster. Guidance for those who support victim-survivors. Recommended by Lundy Bancroft. This book was originally published as To be an Anchor in the Storm.
Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion [*Affiliate link]
by Barbara Roberts. If you have questions about the permissibility of divorce this book explains the scriptural dilemmas of abuse victims in regard to separation and divorce, carefully examines the scriptures and scholarly research, and shows how the Bible sets victims of abuse free from bondage and guilt. It will help victims throw off the unbiblical traditions they have been in bondage to and get free from their abusers. Read reviews at of this book at Barbara’s website by theologians, by pastoral carers, and by others Here is an additional review of this book by Ps. Dave Orrison.
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men [*Affiliate link]
***IMPORTANT NOTE: While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend anyone attend the ‘healing retreats’ Lundy Bancroft offers or become involved in his ‘Peak Living Network.” See our post, ACFJ Does Not Recommend Lundy Bancroft’s Retreats or His New Peak Living Network for more about our concerns.
by Lundy Bancroft. This single book will take you far in your journey to wise up to the deceptions of abusers. Note: Bancroft’s books contains some vulgar language because he quotes abusers. An excellent review of this book can be found here.
Converting statements into questions — a skill for bystanders who want to help victims of abuse
Helping an Abuse Victim without being Duped by the Abuser
How to Support an Abuse Victim
I’m Nobody Special; What Can I Do To Help Lazarus?
Supporters of Victims of Domestic Abuse — ACFJ Resource page