A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

How can I help my friend or relative who has been abused?

Online Resources

Respecting & Listening to Victims of Violence:  A handbook for those who are supporting women who have been abused by an intimate partner.

Resources for Family and Friends

Resources for Supporters of Victims of Domestic Abuse

Book Suggestions*

Books for Supporters of Survivors

*Helping Her Get Free:  A Guide for Families & Friends of Abused Women

by Susan Brewster. Guidance for those who support victim-survivors.  Recommended by Lundy Bancroft.  This book was originally published as To be an Anchor in the Storm.

*A Cry For Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church

by Jeff Crippen and Anna Woods.
Here is a link to a review of this book by Ps Dave Orrison.

*Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

by Jeff Crippen with Rebecca Davis. Pastor and author Jeff Crippen presents Christ’s body with a work steeped in Scripture that lays before us a map of the abusive mind, the tactics of abuse, the effects abuse has on its victims, and the tragic way our churches have failed the victims of this sin. He issues a clarion call for those who love Christ to answer the call to love the oppressed and speak for the victims – together we can root out the wolves in the midst of the flock and unmask the domestic abuser in the church hiding in our pews.

*Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion

by Barbara Roberts.  If you have questions about the permissibility of divorce this book explains the scriptural dilemmas of abuse victims in regard to separation and divorce,  carefully examines the scriptures and scholarly research, and shows how the Bible sets victims of abuse free from bondage and guilt. It will help victims throw off the unbiblical traditions they have been in bondage to and get free from their abusers. Read reviews at of this book at Barbara’s website by theologians, by pastoral carers, and by others  Here is an additional review of this book by Ps. Dave Orrison.

*Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

***IMPORTANT NOTE:  While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend anyone attend the ‘healing retreats’ Lundy Bancroft offers or become involved in his ‘Peak Living Network.” See our post, ACFJ Does Not Recommend Lundy Bancroft’s Retreats or His New Peak Living Network for more about our concerns.

by Lundy Bancroft.  This single book will take you far in your journey to wise up to the deceptions of abusers.  Note:  Bancroft’s books contains some vulgar language because he quotes abusers.  An excellent review of this book can be found here.


Converting statements into questions — a skill for bystanders who want to help victims of abuse

Helping an Abuse Victim without being Duped by the Abuser

How to Support an Abuse Victim

I’m Nobody Special; What Can I Do To Help Lazarus?

Supporters of Victims of Domestic Abuse — ACFJ Resource page

*Amazon affiliate link — ACFJ gets a small percentage if you purchase via this link. 


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