This site discusses how to manage exchanges with “high conflict people” but it does not consider the degree of high conflict we mostly deal with on this blog. Their advice really isn’t geared toward the difficulties of dealing with the average conscience-deficient evil abuser — evil people who know what they are doing and why they are doing it and whose purpose is control and dominance.
They are mostly about non-abusers who are socially challenged in some way and so become difficult. However, that does not mean what they have to say is not valuable or would not be helpful for some situations our readers may be dealing with. Some of what they say can be helpful for abuse victims, especially the article on responding to emails.
They have a section on high conflict people at work and a ton of stuff on divorce. We are not sure their divorce stuff is all that helpful for domestic abuse situations, though. And one of their suggestions would be contraindicated in dealing with abusers: what they call the E.A.R. method, which is give Empathy (we are already lost right there), Attention, and Respect. Noooooo……
So readers, when you visit this site, just bear these caveats in mind.
Our Mission
Culture Reframed builds resilience and resistance in young people to hypersexualized media and pornography by:
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- Raising Awareness
- Building Knowledge, Skills, & Confidence
- Promoting Social Change
Each year, we reach tens of thousands of parents and professionals around the world who serve young people.
Projected Impact Of The Work Of Culture Reframed
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- Increased assessment, reporting, and treatment of health problems and injuries related to pornography
- Increased community, school, state/provincial, and federal advocacy for policies that address the harms of pornography
- Development and spread of cultural norms that support healthy sexuality as a basic human right for all people
- Increased youth resilience to porn culture
- Prevention of problems related to pornography
Emotional abuse is the most difficult category to define, and unfortunately, the most difficult type of abuse to investigate. Examples include harsh criticism, name-calling or derogatory comments, shaming, threatening, withholding love and affection, and possibly exposing children to domestic violence.
“Fred et Marie” is a video produced by Bonjour, Inc. It is in French, but there are English subtitles. This video does an excellent job of portraying coercive control, entrapment, social abuse & isolation, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, threats of physical violence… and the profound fear which all this induces in the victim. It also shows poor bystander responses. TRIGGER WARNING: This video is 15 minutes in length and will almost certainly trigger some, so please be prepared.
Is Someone you Know Being Abused in a Relationship?
This booklet can be downloaded in several different languages.
Neglect is a failure to provide certain basic necessities of life, including food/water, adequate shelter, or appropriate supervision. Not getting medical care or not being taken to school may also classify as neglect.
Physical abuse can be any act of violence (accidental or intentional) that results in an injury to a child. This may include punching, kicking, shaking, stabbing, throwing, biting, choking, burning or hitting (with an hand or an object, like a belt or switch).
Protective Behaviors for Children
An ACFJ post that might answer some questions from mothers who are about to have to provide their abuser with unsupervised access to their children, and the mothers know the abuser has been sexually grooming or outright sexually abusing the children.
An excellent 34 page PDF resource from Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter.
Sexual abuse may include inappropriate touching, being forced to have sex or engage in sexual acts, being forced to watch pornography, being prostituted, or having someone expose themselves to a child.
Unhelpful Comments by Well-Meaning People – and how to respond to them
An ACFJ blog post by Barbara Roberts
This Headington Institute webpage contains an excerpt from Understanding and Addressing Vicarious Trauma that may be useful for those who are feeling overwhelmed from supporting victims of abuse.
What’s OK at Home (WOAH) website (Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria (DVRCV) in Melbourne, Victoria Australia
WOAH is a one-of-a-kind online platform with exercises, stories and information that supports children and young people aged 10-17 to recognize family violence and provides practical guidance to support their safety, health and emotional wellbeing.
WOAH also has a section for adults who want to help a child or young person in a family violence situation, with information about what to do, where to get help, the law, and guidance on how you can make a difference in a young person’s life.
What to Expect When You Are The Family Scapegoat
This article defines and describes the term family scapegoat.
A Cry For Justice 
Do you have resources for a parent whose child seems to also be manifesting abusive tactics?
Some of the posts in our Parenting Tag may be of help.
And this may help: Resources for parenting