Supporters of Victims of Domestic Abuse
ACFJ FAQ page with a list of related posts
For teenagers and young people who have been exposed to domestic abuse. [Note: not a Christian site]
[Editors note: Bursting the Bubble is now What’s OK at Home – or WOAH. The website is http://woah.org.au ]
Cathy Kroeger spoke about things she and colleagues had been doing for decades to get Christians to address domestic abuse, in the USA, Canada and Russia. Kroeger was the founding president of CBE (Christians for Biblical Equality) and at the time of this talk was the President of PASCH (Peace and Safety in the Christian Home). PASCH is no longer in existence. She covers:
- domestic abuse in the Bible: Ezekiel 34, Hagar, Judah and Tamar, Joseph and his brothers
- David’s adultery and Nathan’s faithfulness
- the dichotomy — many are in denial, some are trying to generate social change
- in social change, the role of the prophet is unpopular
- how to get men involved
- pastoral counselling for domestic abuse takes up more time than any other kind of pastoral counselling
- pastors with the least training feel they can handle the problem by themselves
- pastors with more training in domestic abuse work in consort with secular agencies
- in the early 20th century, evangelicals thought Prohibition would stop domestic abuse
- how CBE got active on domestic abuse, lost motivation, then got back on board
- how the World Evangelical Fellowship got a taskforce started on violence against women
- why the RAVE website was set up
- how PASCH is writing a faith-based program for the DULUTH model (Changed Men Changed Lives)
- some professions have higher rates of abuse: military, police, doctors, lawyers, judges, clergy
- the attempted suicide rate in abused women is 35-40%
by Catherine DeLoach Lewis. This 2-page PDF is a condensed tool for pastors and counselors who are dealing with domestic abuse cases. It can be kept in one’s desk for ready access when printed and laminated as a double-sided resource.
Lewis created this version specific to her locality (i.e. phone numbers and agencies); however, she is willing to modify the information to reflect your specific contact information. Simply contact her by email (address provided at the bottom of the PDF) with your request.
Converting Statements into Questions: A skill for bystanders who want to help victims of domestic abuse
An ACFJ blog post by Barbara Roberts.
from “Practice Guidelines: A consultative document for Churches, circuits and districts when working within the issue of Domestic Abuse.
An excellent 34 page PDF resource from Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter. And their booklet Choosing to Change: A Handbook for Men concerned about their abusive behavior toward those they love – may be helpful for abusers who want to change.
ACFJ FAQ page with a list of related posts and other resources
Information for supporters victims of domestic abuse.
If you prefer the information as a PDF booklet, one can be downloaded here, and can be downloaded in several different languages, including English. The links to download the PDF (booklet) files are located about halfway down the page.
Readers are freely granted permission to reproduce this letter and use it to good ends. Please do not alter or change the wording.
Fact sheet by xyonline.net, also available in PDF. Summary from the fact sheet:
Women routinely make up allegations of domestic violence and rape, including to gain advantage in family law cases. And women use protection orders to remove men from their homes or deny contact with children.
- The risk of domestic violence increases at the time of separation.
- Most allegations of domestic violence in the context of family law proceedings are made in good faith and with support and evidence for their claims.
- Rates of false accusations of rape are very low.
- Women living with domestic violence often do not take out protection orders and do so only as a last resort.
- Protection orders provide an effective means of reducing women’s vulnerability to violence.
by Ben Atherton-Zeman. Ben, though not a Christian, believes that more work needs to be done to involve men to end men’s violence. He has created a set of wheels to help men become more effective allies in the movement against battered women.
An excellent handbook from Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter. Written mainly for people who want to be able to support victims of family violence, but also beneficial to victims. It will give you ideas about talking with victims in respectful ways that will be helpful to women who are being abused by their partner.
By Michael Flood
Sexist jokes often are dismissed or excused as harmless fun. Yet they have real, negative effects in the world. They are linked to sexist and violent behaviour, they worsen gender inequalities, and they increase tolerance for violence against women.
Sin by Silence is a documentary that takes one into the lives of women who are domestic violence’s living, worst-case scenarios. Some of these women have killed their abusers and are now trapped behind bars. This documentary tells the story of Convicted Women Against Abuse (CWAA), an initiative led by the women of CWAA to help educate the legal system. Through careful orchestration of letter writing campaigns, media coverage, and senate hearings a moment was born and laws for battered women were change.
by Dr George Simon Jr
An ACFJ blog post by Barbara Roberts. This will give you ideas of what not to say to victims!
This Headington Institute webpage contains an excerpt from Understanding and Addressing Vicarious Trauma that may be useful for those who are feeling overwhelmed from supporting victims of abuse.
The original What Men Can Do website now redirects No To Violence.
Information about how men can respond to and prevent men’s violence against women.
An ACFJ blog post by Barbara Roberts. Explains the many reasons why women stay. After reading this article, bystanders will be less likely to slight a victim for not leaving an abusive relationship.