Family Scapegoating: Part 2

To read Part 1 of this series click here It is very challenging for a victim of family scapegoating to escape their position. Nevertheless, it is necessary. Rarely does a victim escape before the age of 30 and, even then, the victim needs tremendous support (if possible) to break free from the clutches of manipulation and… Continue reading Family Scapegoating: Part 2

Family Scapegoating: Part 1

[The link to the embedded video that was here is broken. We found a copy of the embedded video that worked in an Internet Archive copy of this post (Family Scapegoating: Part 1) that was Internet Archived prior to the ACFJ name change from .com to .blog. Click here [Internet Archive link] for the Internet… Continue reading Family Scapegoating: Part 1

Abusers’ Addiction To the Upper Hand

My husband, David (who is a pastor), told me a story yesterday about a man at an elder/deacon board meeting at a church a few years back. The meeting was an effort to unite the congregation and staff and create a mission statement and vision for the church. At one point, during an endless talk… Continue reading Abusers’ Addiction To the Upper Hand

A Story of Freedom — By Bekah Mason

We are grateful and honored to have permission to publish Bekah Mason's post (originally published on Give Her Wings).  Bekah and Kat are two women who were more than happy to dedicate a few days to aid in the rescue of “Overcoming” (alias) and her daughter from an oppressive family. Overcoming had left an abusive… Continue reading A Story of Freedom — By Bekah Mason

You Can Do This . . .

[September 25, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.] After being in an abusive marriage for a long time, we women often believe that we cannot possibly get out. It is irrational, when I think back now, but… Continue reading You Can Do This . . .

A Review of “BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People” by Bill Eddy

Bill Eddy (a certified Family Law Specialist in California) has written a marvelous and succinct book on how to deal with (what he calls), High Conflict Personalities. He defines a high conflict personality as one who lacks the skills for being able to deal with conflict. HCP's are people who do not understand (nor deal with)… Continue reading A Review of “BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People” by Bill Eddy