Paige Patterson’s been exposed. Now Bruce Ware must be exposed. #ChurchDV
Bruce Ware is another Southern Baptist who teaches dangerous stuff about domestic abuse. He teaches that a wife’s lack of submission threatens her husband’s authority, and he responds to this threat by abusing her.
Now that Paige Patterson’s dangerous ideas have been brought front and center, I suggest Southern Baptists put the spotlight on Bruce Ware.
Bruce Ware is a professor at SBTS and his bio says: “Ware is a highly esteemed theologian and author in the evangelical world.”
It is diabolical that someone should be highly esteemed in the evangelical world and yet teach that when women challenge their husbands one of the ways husbands respond to that ‘threat to their authority’ is by becoming abusive.
Ware explains male-on-female domestic abuse as follows: Wives threaten their husbands’ authority by not submitting to them, and husbands respond to that threat either by becoming abusive, or by acquiescing and sinfully abrogating their authority.
We know this because of what Ware said in his talk A Complementarian Vision of Creation which he gave at Denton Bible Church on June 22, 2008. Ware has never retracted that teaching. Quite a few lesser known bloggers (most of them victim-survivors of domestic abuse) have called Bruce Ware out for this, and Bob Allen from EthicsDaily.com reported it, but we got no traction for many years.
My post Bruce Ware teaches that a wife’s lack of submission threatens her husband’s authority, and he responds to this threat by abusing her sets out the full story. Please I beg you, read this post. I document exactly what Bruce Ware says.
If the Southern Baptists give Paige Patterson a pass now because he has written a so-called apology letter about his sexual objectification of a 16 year old girl, they will not have bitten the bullet. There is a lot more rot in the tree than just Paige Patterson.
And the rot is not just in the Southern Baptist denomination. It’s pretty much everywhere: denominations, para-church organizations, biblical counseling, etc…. with a few exceptions in truly godly pastors leading usually small churches.
To cut the rot out of a very rotten tree takes time. It needs careful attention. And the tree surgeons don’t know how long the job will take when they start. They have to get up in the tree with their harnesses on and start cutting, looking, testing the soundness of each limb, working out how far the rot has progressed, cutting some more, looking some more… The job takes as long as it takes.
This is not a just writing quick blog or facebook post and hitting ‘share’ and thinking you’ve done it (though ever little bit helps). This is not getting Paige Patterson to step down and thinking you’ve done it. This is not having one meeting of the Board of Trustees and passing a resolution.
Who will become tree surgeons? And beware of imposters as you are going about the work!
Here are some women bloggers have been trying to be “ezers” (necessary allies) to men. But by and large we’ve been ignored by the male leaders in the church.
Time to listen up guys! Not all of us women are egalitarians, but all of us have seen big problems in the way complementarians have been handling this stuff. And if you don’t let us help you, I don’t think you can do the course correction on your own. You’re too blind to your own privilege.
SBC Professor Bruce Ware Blames Wives for Husbands’ Abuse Danni Moss 2008
Dr. Bruce Ware Defines the Complementarian Position Wendy Alsup 2016
Authority: Is It Really the Biblical Counterpart to Marital Submission? Rachel Shubin 2017