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Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control – Don Hennessy’s new book (DH series part 12)

Don Hennessy’s book Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control is different from most ‘sympathy’ and ‘support’ books which rely on the target woman to protect herself. Instead it talks directly to the target woman while she is being controlled and hopes to give her the permission and the skills to protect her mind and her soul.

Sean Moncrieff interviews Don Hennessy about Steps to Freedom. [This episode is no longer available here, nor could it be found in the Internet Archive. Editors.] I urge you to listen to this. Once again Don Hennessy cuts to the heart of what is really going on when men abuse their female partners.

Steps to Freedom is written in practical and accessible language, including case studies.

Controlling behaviour, particularly of men towards women, is far more common in all walks of life than we have been led to believe. In this easy-to-read guide, best-selling author Don Hennessy offers practical advice to all those dealing with violent or controlling behaviour in their own lives, based on his experience of dealing with hundreds of such people in a therapeutic setting. Most important, he explains to the reader how they can throw off the shackles and live lives free from fear and intimidation.

Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control can be purchased direct from the Irish publisher Liberties Press, or from Amazon [*Affiliate link] or other book retailers.

Don Hennessy is the Director of the National Domestic Violence Intervention Agency and the author of the best-selling How He Gets Into Her Head. He is a relationship counsellor who has worked for many years with women who are experiencing difficulties with abusive or controlling partners. Don has been interviewed in the Irish Independent, Irish Examiner and Irish Times, and is a regular contributor on the subject of intimate control in the broadcast media in Ireland and internationally.

The Northern Ireland Domestic & Sexual Violence and Abuse Partnership says:


*Amazon affiliate link — ACFJ gets a small percentage if you purchase via this link.

Check out our Don Hennessy Digest which contains an exposition of How He Gets Into Her Head and a few different media items where Hennessy is one of the speakers.


  1. Spiritually abused

    Do you know when his book might be available on Amazon or Kindle? I looked it up and the shipping is as much as the book (for my part of the world). 😦
    I read and really liked his last book and look forward to reading this one.

  2. Spiritually abused

    Sorry. I just saw the USA release date is May 2018.

  3. Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries
  4. Peach

    Thank you so much for bringing this book to the attention of your readers. I purchased this for a friend (a former DV victim) and it was so very helpful.

  5. Now Free (formerly struggling to be free)

    No longer in play

    I don’t want to
    Play this game anymore
    It’s too childish, it’s too immature
    I’m a grown up – oh did you not even conceive??
    I’ve read the rules before I leave.

    Don’t try to outwit me for I’m no longer the fool
    Don’t try to cheat and then play it cool
    Cunning tactics no longer can you hide
    Lose the false cards by your side.

    I forfeit the game
    You may think you have won
    But you know you have lost all in you soul
    As I’m putting me now as number one.

    The game is up
    The game is over
    Oh you can try play away
    But I’m no longer a pushover

    The game was dirty
    The game was tough
    You can play the joker
    Nah I’ve had enough

    Out of the arena
    I’m no longer at play
    I may seem down
    But ‘not out’ today!


  6. Now Free (formerly struggling to be free)

    I’ve written this as after over 20 years of abuse, I got out just over two years ago. It was a long struggle, but sadly I’ve fallen into the hands of another. My fault for not recognising or ignoring the red flags. I’m breaking free as I speak. The verbal abuse, fearful threats, spying etc are horrible to say the least, but that is my response this morning in my heart.

    It strengthens me to write and let my emotions etc go. Very therapeutic.

    I’ve made my mind up, I’ve broken all off, as I’ve realised I’ve been targeted by an abuser. Of course they think the opposite and are never to blame. It all one big game to them.

    I feel stupid and afraid and very vulnerable, but I will survive!! I’m singing that old hit in my heart!!!

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