A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

God told them in a dream to flee the evildoer. Safety planning in the Christmas story.


Scene of the massacre of the Innocents (Scène du massacre des Innocents) by Léon Cogniet, painted in 1824.

Flee the abuser – that was what God told Joseph in a dream.  Do not return to the abuser – that was what God told the Magi in a dream.

And being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod, they [the Magi]  departed into their own country another way. And when they were departed, behold, the angel of the Lord appeareth to Joseph in a dream, saying, Arise, and take the young child and his mother, and flee into Egypt, and be thou there until I bring thee word: for Herod will seek the young child to destroy him.  (Matthew 2:12-13 KJV) 

My point is simply that sometimes God gives specific instructions to individuals in dreams… or in visions or ‘words of knowledge’. Some of our readers can testify that they had direct and specific instructions from God about when to leave their abuser. Not all of us have had that kind of experience, but it’s important to validate that such experiences do happen. And these dreams in the Christmas narrative confirm that principle.

I am not for a moment suggesting that the ‘flee now!’ instruction is to be applied to every victim of abuse. I always allow victims to make their own decisions about whether and when to flee their abusers. And if any victim chooses to return to her abuser, I never judge her. I understand the complexities. And each person’s case is different.

Now, to wish you all a happy and hope-filled Christmas, I want to share with you an article by Boz Tchividjian which was originally published at Religion News Service. Boz has said it is okay for us to reblog it here.

Winter inside the Church and the hope of Christmas

Photo courtesy of Evannovostro, Shutterstock


  1. Reblogged this on Speakingtruthinlove's Blog.

  2. Heather Black (formerly H)

    I love this — thank you! I did clearly God tell me to leave my abuser, both when I was living with him and being abused and then also later when I was fighting against my church to persuade them I had the right to divorce and be “not under bondage”. I didn’t dare ignore God’s voice either time.

    Thank God for the secular world leading the church in morality with the outrage over sexual abuse… what a shame for the church though that it is not the other way around. I’m in eager anticipation for the day that God will reveal just how many wolfs are leading the visible church and the day that victims who have been silenced and scapegoated will be vindicated.

  3. Finding Answers

    From the original post “………..And each person’s case is different.”


    Also from the original post “……I understand the complexities…….”


    From Boz’ article “We reflect the hope-filled light of Jesus when we believe, affirm and welcome survivors who have bravely stepped out from the shadows.”


    Also from Boz’ article “……The undistorted Jesus is the great light who “shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it.”…….”


    Also from Boz’ article “……and those who have been abused will experience unconditional love……”


    • Finding Answers, you often amaze me with how you are led to read old posts and comment on them. 🙂 🙂 🙂

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