We recommend this three part post series about Coercive Control at domesticshelters.org, with the following caveat:
We do not agree with the last sentence of Part 2 which says:
Abusive and controlling men are so dependent on their intimate partners, they often believe they will die without them.
(Part 1) What is Coercive Control?
(Part 2) More About Coercive Control
(Part 3) My Experience With Coercive Control
Like Dr George Simon Jr, we think the core of abusive and controlling men’s mentality is not dependency, but an overblow sense of entitlement and malignant narcissism. When abusive men portray themselves as ‘dependent on their intimate partners,’ this is just one of their tactics of manipulation and emotional blackmail — the ‘poor me’ act designed to make us feel sorry for the abusive man and make allowances for him.
We are not necessarily endorsing all the material on the material at domesticshelters.org — but we have noticed a few other items on that site which we think would help our readers and we have added these items to our Resources. Here they are:
The Deaf Endure Domestic Violence More Than Hearing
3 Myths about survivors of domestic violence
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Further reading
Abuse Is a Pattern.’ Why These Nations Took the Lead in Criminalizing Controlling Behavior in Relationships – Time Magazine, June 21, 2019
A Cry For Justice 
(Airbrushing….)
I read all the linked articles – the three-part series, as well as the the four at the end of the original post.
I found the article The Deaf Endure Domestic Violence More Than Hearing particularly interesting, having known a family with one deaf parent and the other parent hard of hearing. (Omitting some details for my protection.) I can understand the extra fodder for abuse.
Barb cited a quote from part 2 with which ACFJ does not agree.
I had another problem with part 2 in the series:
Perhaps I am influenced by the male victims / survivors I have read on the ACFJ blog – posters / writers / commenters. Perhaps, too, I need to remember ACFJ comes from a Christian perspective, where the article appears secular.
I find the answer too general, even with the paucity of research acknowledged. The description of the coercively controlled male seems a bit too stereotypical.
Coercive control is hard to pin down….