Predators look for the blind, the lame and the already wounded
I (Jeff Crippen) have been watching some instructional YouTube videos on how to best use artificial plastic baits for fishing — getting them put on the hook correctly and so on. I also know from experience that to properly rig up a herring to troll for salmon you want to be sure it rolls in the water as you pull it along.
The reason you want the correct action on your bait is because it needs to mimic a wounded fish, minnow, or other critter. This is because predatory fish watch for the weak or injured and go for them. Sometimes they do it even if they are not particularly hungry. It’s just because they are predators.
And this got me to thinking.
Abusers are predators. They go for the easiest targets quite often: the blind, the lame or the already-wounded. Pedophiles, for example, have honed their radar to spot troubled children or youth. They like to go after these kinds of kids because they know they are more likely to get away with abusing them. There are a variety of reasons why pedophiles prefer to home in on those children. Troubled kids might deeply desire love and attention, and the pedophile can easily behave in ways that make the kid feel ‘specially cared for’ (= grooming). Troubled kids may have parents or guardians who have substantial problems of their own, and thus are less able to proactively look out for the kids under their care. A troubled kid may have acquired a reputation as a nuisance, a liar or an attention seeker, so if that child “tells” the rest of the adult world will be much less likely to believe that child’s report.
Likewise, abusers in the domestic realm (and the ecclesiastical realm) often set their sights on someone they think they can relatively easily get power and control over. And someone whose testimony is less likely to be believed.
Now, if this be true, then there is opportunity here for us all to become people who abusers are much less likely to target. Namely, we need to become people who are wise about evil. People who know the mentality and tactics of the abuser. People who know the Lord’s truth and who heed His warnings about the wicked who will try to creep in among us. I have seen it firsthand. As soon as myself and our church grew wise about evil (through some hard lessons) and we began to teach about it specifically, the light started getting too bright for the wicked to continue with us. Oh they had all kinds of excuses (all of which were blaming us of course) for leaving, but we knew what was really happening. They knew that they would no longer be finding easy targets among us. So they moved on.
Diligently learn and teach what God’s Word says about evil, abusive people. Teach those truths to your children. Teach those truths to the flock of Christ. This is all part of putting on the armor of the Lord and being strong in His might.
I can tell you, if a wolf hiding in wool has his sights set on a young lady in a church, and then he finds out that the very mindset and tactics he himself is using are being openly exposed from the pulpit, and if he finds out that the pre-marriage counseling of that church entails reading sound books on domestic abusers, the probability of him moving on to easier pickin’s is going to radically increase.