Is allowing divorce the same as allowing gay marriage?
A reader emailed this question:
What is your doctrine surrounding divorce and remarriage in comparison to the sin of homosexuality? I’ve had an argument with someone recently who holds to the permanence view of marriage. This person says that allowing divorce is the same as allowing gay marriage.
I obviously think this is wrong, but I wanted to know what A Cry For Justice’s doctrine is on this, and some good ways to counter that person’s argument. I’m shocked at how popular this doctrinal belief is.
I replied to his email as follows:
All of us on the team at ACFJ believe in the orthodox Biblical doctrine which is that sexual relationship is meant only for one man and one woman committed in marriage together.
We do not take a liberal view of homosexual lifestyles at all.
We have barely written about same-sex issues as they really don’t have all that much to do with the chief purpose of our blog — awakening the evangelical church to domestic violence and abuse in its midst.
However, I have certainly heard the argument from the Permanence View types, and from so called ‘Family Values’ types, who beat their chests claiming: “To allow divorce is tantamount to allowing gay marriage”.
Or: “To allow divorce for anything other than adultery and desertion by an avowed unbeliever is tantamount to allowing gay marriage.”
Their argument is not logical, it is emotional. The fear factor is the biggest element to it.
Many male abusers get on this bandwagon. It makes it look like they are on the high moral ground, defending The Family from being sucked into the pit of hell in the ‘culture wars’. Rah rah rah. I have seen male domestic abusers get into positions of power in so-called Christian political parties and Christian lobby groups, pushing these barrows. I know they are abusers because I have been friends with their wives.
Sigh. The mystery of iniquity is always at work.
Now readers, over to you. How would you answer the emailer? What are good ways to counter the argument that allowing divorce is the same as allowing gay marriage?