May the 4th be with you — Jedi Mind tricks don’t work here!
Guard: Do you have any identification?
Jedi: (waving his hand) We do not need any identification.
Guard: You do not need any identification.
Throughout this divorce process, I’ve joked that X has a Jedi power. It’s as though he waves his hand and declares, “Everything is Ellie’s fault.” And everyone within ear shot, including me, mindlessly repeats, “Everything is Ellie’s fault!” But to be fair to Jedis, I think X would actually be a Sith if he had lived “a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away….”
It’s not really a power. It’s merely manipulation.
I reviewed a recent email from X and several words jumped out at me. They are “clearly, basic, just, actually, in reality, the truth is, reasonable, very minor,” and “last few.” These words are not only minimizing, but are also attempts to define reality. Perhaps that’s the same thing. But anyway, that’s part of his
Jedi Sith power, his manipulative technique. He also states, “the fact of the matter is,” “the bottom line is,” and “to be honest” pretty often too. It is so empowering to learn these code words. While we were still together, those words would have flooded me with doubt and confusion. I would have been tempted to feel guilty about not responding the way X wanted. After all, I was “clearly” wrong. His requests were “minor and very reasonable.”
It required more than leaving him to break free of his manipulative influence. I had to learn a new way to think. I listened to all of Jeff’ C’s sermons on abuse. Jeff C also recommended several other books. I located several that are available in an audio format and listened to them. I read books, listened to Tim Keller sermons, and several other ministers who encourage me. And X’s power over me decreased as my head was filled with truth. I have been learning the traps and the ways I was susceptible to false guilt. I am sure there’s plenty more to learn! God is faithful to provide the resources I need at just the right time. So X’s Sith power doesn’t work here anymore! And I will be equipped to avoid other Siths in the future.
Ellie is now offering a private translation service. For more info email her at EllieCriesForJustice@gmail.com. [Ellie’s translation service is no longer available. Editors.]
This post was first published on 9 Sept 2013 under the title The Sci-Fi Series Part 5: Your Jedi Mind Tricks Don’t Work Here