Are the Daughters of Eve Stupid?
Abuse is the test of our theology. If our theology does not lead us to render justice and kindness to victims of abuse, and if it does not lead us to an exposure of the evil of the abuser, then our theology is deficient. It is time to go back to the Scriptures and take another look.
Abusers hiding under the facade of Christianity (and remember, those are the WORST kind of abuser), LOVE to promote the notion that women are inferior to men. One way they keep this idea going in the church is to remind women that Eve was deceived by the serpent. It was, in the end, a woman who got us into this whole mess of a fallen world. Adam jumped right onto that bandwagon right off – “it was the woman YOU gave me, Lord.” Women. Can’t live with ’em, and can’t live without ’em. What are we gonna do? Let’s blame ’em and shame ’em.
Does the Bible teach that women are stupid? Inferior to men in their very mind and nature? Well, the Apostle Paul did say –
1 Timothy 2:13-14, For Adam was formed first, then Eve; (14) and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.
And yet, he also wrote –
Galatians 3:28, There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
This much we know – at least any genuine Christian knows – God’s Word never contradicts itself. God’s Word is truth. And truth always is in agreement. You can’t have two truths opposed to one another. Like the biblical doctrines of election and free will – they may appear to be contradictory, but they are not. The problem lies with us, not with God.
When Paul says that Adam was not deceived, THAT IS NOT A COMPLIMENT TO ADAM’S INTELLIGENCE! Eve was deceived by the devil. Adam, having been given a charge by God to rule over the garden and be God’s image bearer, should have KILLED that serpent. But he didn’t. When he took the fruit from his wife and ate, he did so knowingly. God held him to a higher standard. His sin was greater and it was through Adam that we all fell. He is the one the devil wanted to get at all along. Adam was the federal head of our race (Romans 5).
Now, in dealing with Scriptures like this one in 1 Timothy 2, here is what I am learning from my study of the evil nature and schemes of abusers. We cannot merely teach what a Scripture does say — we must also teach what it does not say. Let me do that in this case by giving you a recent example.
We love to hear the personal stories of abuse victims who contact us through this blog, or through Anna’s other blogs. They are heart-breaking, inspiring, and instructive. One Christian lady told us recently how much she fears being deceived and coming to believe that her husband is an abuser if in fact he is not (he shows every sign of being an abuser). We understand this. Christian wives of abusers want to please Christ. They don’t want to sin. But they are confused – you all know that. Abusers confuse. They generate fog, and it takes quite some time to come out of that deception. This sister in Christ said –
I am a woman so I could be deceived like Eve was in the garden.
This is commendable in that you see she truly wants to know the TRUTH. She doesn’t want to buy into some kind of lie. She wants a marriage that honors Christ. She admits she is capable, like all of us, of being deceived.
But is the danger of her deception to be attributed to the fact that she is a woman? I think we can help her here. Her statement can help all of us. If she is deceived (and of course she is to one degree or another), is it BECAUSE SHE IS A WOMAN? Isn’t this amazing? Talk about a trap from the devil! Yes, victims of abusers are deceived – at least until they come out of that deception. But what is the reason for that deception? IT IS BECAUSE HER “ADAM” IS DECEIVING HER WITH HIS LIES. It’s not HER, it’s HIM! Male survivors of abuse will also tell you how they were under a deception for so long before they saw what was happening to them. Yes, this sister in Christ could be deceived. In fact, she is deceived, again, just as every single victim of abuse is deceived until the Lord leads them out of that fog. But she is deceived because she is married to a deceiver, not because she is a woman.
Let’s take this a step further. We all know that the conservative, Bible-believing church today is deceived, horribly deceived, about abuse and abusers and their victims. That is one of the fundamental reasons for this blog and for our book and for all of the efforts you all are involved in to expose this evil in the pews. Now, who is leading our churches? Women? No. In our churches, men are pastors and elders. Men are the heads of their wives and children. We teach this. We practice this. And yet, here is this terrible, terrible mess of deception. Abusers are justified. Victims are ostracized. If we could do a survey somehow of the readers of this blog, how do you suppose the breakdown according to gender would come out? What percentage are women and what percentage are men? I think you have a general idea of the answer. Why is that? It is because women are awakening to the evil of abuse in much higher numbers than men are. Hmmmm…. that doesn’t sound like the daughters of Eve are all that stupid.
This article does not even begin to answer or explain all the related issues of the Bible’s teaching on the nature of men and the nature of women. I haven’t even tried to do that. But this much we can say with certainty – the Bible does not teach that women are stupid because they are women, nor does it teach that men are wise because they are men. There are stupid men, and stupid women because we are sinners. There are evil men, and there are evil women but not because they are men or women.
So we encourage this sister in Christ with this – the mere fact that you have come to the point of being able to write to us, to read things like this blog, to observe the things that you are observing about your husband and what he is doing to you – tells us that you are anything but a foolish, silly, easily-deceived woman. It tells us that Christ is showing you His truth and giving you His wisdom, and He is at work even now to bring you into freedom from your bondage to a cruel-taskmaster.