Those who seek to help survivors of abuse often find their well-intentioned remarks fall like lead balloons. The survivors don't respond with alacrity, gratitude or even (sometimes) civility. What causes this mismatch? Why are so many well-intentioned comments received so poorly? What's the static on the line causing this interference? Being a survivor myself and… Continue reading Converting statements into questions – a skill for bystanders who want to help victims of abuse
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The Wall
There was a moment during my marriage (perhaps you could say it was the emotional end of my marriage), when "the wall" went up. It was the moment when I said "I realize that I do not know you, you are not safe for me, and I will not allow you to hurt me any… Continue reading The Wall
