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They Do It in Secret

Abusers almost always abuse in secret, unless they have gotten sloppy . . . and then they leak.  But that is a different blog post. For the most part, abusers jab and mock (emotionally, physically and verbally) when no one but the victim can feel it, see it or hear it. This is part of …

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Holiday season means more stress for victims of abuse, especially in visitation

As we round the bend of Christmas, many of our readers are facing the more than usually intense anguish of having to interact with their abuser. Those who are still living with an abuser often find that holiday seasons are the most difficult times to get through. Trying to keep the kids happy and reasonably …

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My Own Private Dexter: Insights into the Psychopath – by Deborah

This is a guest post by Deborah, one of our readers. Many thanks to her for sharing these first-hand insights into the character and nature of a sociopath/psychopath. Rom 1:32 Though they know God’s decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who …

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The Matron of Matthew 18

This post was written by our reader who goes by the name Friend of the Oppressed. Thanks, Friend!  If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, …

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Tactics: How the Abuser Sets You Up

Note from Jeff C and Barb: we are pleased to announce that Katy is now one of our Authors on the blog. In fact, this is the second post with her byline, but we forgot to announce her joining the team when her first post was published. This post is about ongoing trauma which results …

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We have chatted about gaslighting here and there but realized, recently, that we do not have a formal post on the topic. So! Here is an informational post that will also, hopefully, enlighten many of our readers to this heinous tactic of  abusers. Armed with knowledge, we know better how to fight the lies. Gaslighting is …

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