The Explaining Trap

When having a conversation with an abuser, the abuser often tries to get you to fall into the explaining trap. It is a trap because no matter how much you explain things to the abuser, the abuser will pretend to not understand or not accept your explanations. And he will keep challenging and criticizing your… Continue reading The Explaining Trap

God told them in a dream to flee the evildoer. Safety planning in the Christmas story.

Flee the abuser — that was what God told Joseph in a dream. Do not return to the abuser — that was what God told the Magi in a dream. And being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod, they [the Magi]  departed into their own country another way.… Continue reading God told them in a dream to flee the evildoer. Safety planning in the Christmas story.