Examples of the Wicked Things “Christians” are Telling Abuse Victims
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
[August 24, 2022: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.]
The word of the LORD came to me: “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy, and say to them, even to the shepherds, Thus says the Lord GOD: Ah, shepherds of Israel who have been feeding yourselves! Should not shepherds feed the sheep? You eat the fat, you clothe yourselves with the wool, you slaughter the fat ones, but you do not feed the sheep. The weak you have not strengthened, the sick you have not healed, the injured you have not bound up, the strayed you have not brought back, the lost you have not sought, and with force and harshness you have ruled them. (Ezekiel 34:1-4 ESV)
There is a description of the kind of ministry God has called pastors and members of Christ’s church to. Feed the sheep, strengthen the weak, heal the sick, bind up the injured, bring back the strays, seek out the lost. Don’t look to yourself and seek self-glory. Don’t Lord it over them with force and harshness. But the evil shepherds of Ezekiel’s day did just the opposite. Just like the Pharisees and scribes and other leaders in Jesus’ day. And just like in OUR present day. Here is a real life, current example of a false shepherd (probably an abuser himself) lording it over one of Christ’s sheep. She writes:
A leader from my old church told me yesterday he refused to believe it was all my husband’s fault. [He said ] I played a part. I was told to submit and he claims the word from the Lord was I would die bitter and not fulfill my calling if I divorce my husband. But the Lord didn’t tell him my husband was going to prostitutes, using drugs and drinking. He also said I’m controlling. Because I wouldn’t let my kids around his family, [because he] uses cocaine…. I showed him all my husband is doing recently, going to bars buying women drinks trying to pick them up bring them home but not giving us money…..yet he told me that my husband is a good guy and needed me to fight for the marriage.
What are words like that? They are the words of the evil one oppressing a true daughter of Abraham. One can and must conclude that such a “church leader” is an abuser himself, using his evil words to this poor lady as a means of justifying his own wickedness. Men like this, in my opinion, hate women. They oppress women. They take the teachings of God’s Word about marriage, divorce, husbands and wives, and pervert and twist those Scriptures to their own evil ends.
Here is still another example of this venom from the tongue. This example comes from the MANY such evil statements made on our Facebook page recently. We delete such statements and ban those who write them because A Cry for Justice is a place where victims are safe, vindicated, believed, and helped. Abusers and their allies are not welcome. The first statement below is GOOD and is made by a righteous lady defending the abuse victim (this post was in regard to the Saeed Aberdini case where he has been exposed as an abuser). Then comes the “pious” arrogant words of the abuser’s ally:
Friend of the Victim:
Just let me say one thing. A man of God will not abuse his wife. They are one if they are married. He would not abuse his wife because she is part of him. If the abuse doesn’t stop I would have to say good-bye. God doesn’t want anyone to be abused.
Ally of the Abuser:
You would be amazed at how many pastors in thriving ministries abuse their wives, are involved in pornography or other sexual sins. Men of God are not perfect. Attitudes such as yours make it all but impossible for these hurting men (and their wives) to openly get help. Been there, done that.
Friend of the Victim:
A man who calls himself by the name of Christ and who is unrepentant of his sins against his wife, himself, and God, is not “a man of God.”
So, Ally of the Abuser, you maintain that the rankest abuse and evil can be a regular part of a “man of God’s” life and the church is bound to support him and keep him in his ministry! You dismiss the most horrid evils with a wave of your hand and a “men of God are not perfect” declaration. So, you would believe that Bill Gothard is a man of God and should still be in ministry. You believe that, well, the devil himself is just a “hurting” fellow who needs our help. There is, by the way, one true statement in what you say:
You would be amazed at how many pastors in thriving ministries abuse their wives, are involved in pornography or other sexual sins.
That is absolutely true. What is revolting is that you excuse that evil, condone their continued oppression of victims, and insist that God is blessing and using them. That is just about as twisted of a statement that I have heard this year.
So, you see, these are the terrible hurtful lying falsehoods that abuse victims in the “Christian” church are regularly hit with. This is not Christ. It is not the Gospel. It is not God’s Word. It is of the evil one and his children who have crept in among us in disguise. May the Lord continue to enable us to tear off that disguise and reveal the evil for what it is.
[August 24, 2022: Editors’ notes:
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