The Spirit of the Abuser is the Same as a Mass Murderer
You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies. (John 8:44)
Most of you know that at the root of the abuser’s mentality is his profound sense of entitlement to have power and control. Power. Control. “I will be like the Most High.” That is what explains him. That is what makes him tick. On the surface he may seem very confusing and contradictory (many abusers want to keep people in the dark about who they really are what they are really up to), but when you finally realize that he is all about power and control, things begin to make sense. He is, after all, a child of that fiendish father, the devil.
Now, the devil is a murderer. Why? Because he demands power and control. He wants to be God, and therefore he lusts for the power of life and death. HE will determine who lives and who dies. And this is the very thing that makes these mass murderers do what they do. Why does someone walk into a mall, for instance, and start slaughtering people they don’t even know? Power and control. “I am here. Look at me. I will now determine life and death. The cameras are on me. I want all eyes on me. Everyone must grovel before me.” And this, by the way, explains (IMO) why these sons of the devil typically commit suicide when they are done. As soon as they perceive that they have lost power and control, or are about to lose it (i.e., the police closing in), they exercise their one final defiant act of power and control. They determine that they will die and they will take their own life. No one else is going to do it.
Then they meet the living and true God and find out who really has power and control.
But here is my point. Abusers do not all go slaughter masses of people. Some do. Far too many do. They kill their wife. They kill her children. But even the ones who do not literally murder are of the same spirit as those who do. They all crave power and control and they are determined to get it in one way or another. This is why, I believe, that moment when an abuse victim leaves her abuser is a highly dangerous time to her. He sees he is about to lose power and control. He often decides to do something that “shows her who is really in charge here.” That something can run from seizing all the money, sabotaging her career, or right on up to the hellish murder/suicide scenario we see in the papers every week.
Abusers share the very same spirit as mass murderers. Abuse is murder and the Lord sees it as such.
This is something then that all of us need to be on guard for as we relate to other people. Do any of them evidence signs of this satanic spirit of entitlement to power and control? Perhaps some of our readers could comment here and help us learn. What signs, as you look back in hindsight, might have been evident of the presence of this mentality in the early days of your relationship with your abuser? How did he evidence this craving for power and control, even in perhaps rather subtle ways back then?
You said in your heart, ‘I will ascend to heaven; above the stars of God I will set my throne on high; I will sit on the mount of assembly in the far reaches of the north; I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will make myself like the Most High.’ (Isaiah 14:13-14)