Nope! You Can’t “Have Your Say” Here at ACFJ if Your Words Traumatize Others
2 Timothy 1:13 Follow the pattern of the sound words that you have heard from me, in the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.
We have had this happen to us here at ACFJ many times, and recently it happened again. A staunch “defender of the faith” zealous for “the Word of God” made some comments. He insists that the Bible is quite clear that abuse is no grounds for divorce. He offered the usual superficial arguments, though as is most always the case he was quite pleased with himself about how excellent his use of Scripture was. We let him have his say in a comment or two, and answered him and pointed him to some resources that would help him come to a better understanding of abuse and God’s view of marriage and divorce. He continued to comment but we did not approve those subsequent comments. Then, the typical ending — he criticized us for being biased and not allowing open and free debate when someone disagrees with us. Here is, in part, what he leveled at us (which we did not publish)
I see that one is welcome to post as long as one has a view that is consistent with yours. Apparently this is not a place for understanding through truth seeking and commonality but a place for self promotion and bandwagoning.
Well, no. We don’t permit unbridled “open and free debate” of the kind he is talking about on this blog, and I will tell you why. Most of you already know. People like this fellow, oblivious as they are to nature and mentality of abusers and to the nature of the trauma this abuse effects upon victims, have no clue about what their caustic words do to people who are trying to find safe haven and support and recover from abuse. Here he comes, guns loaded for holy battle — announcing with certainty that God in no way permits divorce for abuse. Doesn’t matter that sound and godly people who are superior Bible scholars than this fellow come to a different conclusion, nope — this guy just knows he is right and he is going to set us all straight. When we don’t permit his traumatizing remarks to be published and unleashed upon all of you, well, here come his accusations against us for stifling “truth.”
So, let me ask all of you to comment on this post and perhaps this fellow will see what our readers have to say. What can you tell him about how his words affect you? What happens when survivors of abuse come to this blog and are subjected to “I’m sorry. John MacArthur is right! God does not permit divorce for abuse. The Bible is very clear on this subject. My conclusions are right and you are all wrong.”
So, Mr. Commenter — go and learn that God requires mercy, not sacrifice. And learn to guard your words. When your “understanding of truth” comments hurt people who are recovering from and STILL experiencing the evils of abuse, then no, you will not be permitted to have your say here. To allow you to do so would be equivalent to letting you go into a hospital ward and preach to everyone there about how you know that the Bible teaches anyone who is sick is guilty of sin. Nope. Not gonna let you do that here.