Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 groups — women influencing each other
This post has been prompted by a discussion I’ve been having by email with God Fearing Mom, one of our readers. Here are her words, recast and elaborated by me for this post.
I’ve been thinking that other young women like me are being brainwashed. One of my friends had a husband that was evil (according to her description) and thankfully he left her and their numerous children. Thankfully the courts said they don’t have to see their dad. The point is, she is young like me and she was influenced by teaching that gives honor to a fool (certain husbands) — which clearly undermines the principle of Proverbs 26:8 —
Like one who binds the stone in the sling is one who gives honor to a fool.
Women like my friend have an audience of women in difficult or unequally yoked marriages and they operate in clusters of other “Titus 2” and “Proverbs 31” women. Not all women in Titus 2 or Proverbs 31 groups are in difficult or destructive marriages, but these groups potentially contain women who are being abused by their husbands. In these informal groups women are influencing and supposedly supporting each other, and older women in the group are usually seen as mentors. While they profess Christ, grace and our brokenness, they are heaping heavy burdens on women who are undergoing abuse without any idea that God doesn’t require women to be under such burdens.
It becomes another gospel: a destructive heresy that is tantamount to idolatry. The children suffer or grow up wayward because when women have been taught we must obey that type of authority — our light gets blotted out and we lose our saltiness. We lose heart. Thankfully the Lord finally revealed it to me after ten years, and hopefully God will shake these women in Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 groups. I don’t think they realize what they are teaching is wrong and how it is especially wrong and dangerous for women who are married to abusive husbands.
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We would like to hear from other readers who have experienced or have views about “Titus 2” or “Proverbs 31” groups. Please feel free to share both positive and negative experiences and opinions. We don’t want to be unfair to these informal groups or to the women in them, we just want to open this up for a compassionate and well reasoned discussion and sharing.