An Open and Shut Case: Or is It?
The YouTube link to the viral video referred to below has been removed by YouTube. But here is a news report from The Blaze that pretty well fills you in on what happened. In the video, the wife is screaming and swearing and throwing a fit over her husband not taking her to a lake. News reports all portrayed her as clearly nuts, whacko, a terror to live with.
From what we know about abuse, is this the only possible explanation of her behavior? She does appear to be drunk or high on something for sure, but even then is this an open and shut case that proves she is the abuser in the marriage? If you can find the actual video clip and watch it, what is your take on the husband’s tone as he talks to her while she is in her tantrum? We here at ACFJ fully acknowledge that women can be abusers, and this lady perhaps is one. But it is always a good idea when confronted with these scenarios to really think things through and not run to conclusions quickly.
Here is the report of the event (taken from The Blaze). Read it and then share your thoughts with us, please. (Actually, here is a link to the video a reader just provided. WARNING: Full of some really rough language. [Internet Archive link])
A man’s wife threw an absolute temper tantrum when her husband wouldn’t take her to the lake on a Saturday. She didn’t realize he was video recording the entire fit and planned to upload it on YouTube.
The man in the video, Jim, apparently had already planned to do household chores and car maintenance on this particular Saturday. He says this is the way his wife regularly acts when “she does not get her way.”
Sadly, this would be the married couple’s last fight.
“After dealing with her drinking problems (“she is on probation for a DUI”), trying to patch things up through marriage counseling (“she showed up 10 minutes late and left”), and suffering in silence while she repeatedly tried “to convince all of her friends that I was always yelling and cussing,” Jim decided to call it a day.”
Further, Jim reportedly later clarified about the circumstances surrounding the tantrum and whether he promised to take her to the lake previously.
“Didn’t promise anything at all. In fact, I had worked 60 hours that week and told her all week that [S]aturday was my day to get stuff done around the house,” he wrote. “But as usual she threw a fit about it. She has broken doors off the jambs at our house…That was the last day I lived in our house. I have moved out and filed a restraining order against her.”
Jim also said he realized his marriage was truly over when his wife defriended him on Facebook.