I had that moment to say something… and I just drove off.
People who take up the cause of domestic abuse usually do so because something in their personal life has galvanized them into it. Many activists have been victims themselves; others take it up because they are close friends or relatives of a victim. But occasionally bystanders are galvanized purely because they see a noxious example of domestic abuse and the indignation rises and will not go down. They have to fight for change; their consciences will not let them rest.
Here is an anecdote from Ps Jonathan McGriff, from Christian Men Against Domestic Violence.
John interviewed Jeff Crippen on BlogTalk Radio recently. (You can listen to the talk here.)
Both John and Jeff used to be police officers, and in sharing their experiences John told this story from his days as a young police officer.
One night about three o’clock in the morning I’m sitting up talking to a guy – we worked on the same squad, we had the same type of beliefs. And both of us are going through trials and tribulations in our marriages so we’re venting to each other. And so he goes into this story about how him and his fiance were driving down from Tampa to Orlando, and she just kept talking, kept talking and he said “I just reached over and slammed her head into the windshield, and broke it.”
And you know, I just kinda drove off. And that still haunts me to this day, because I’m like “Wow, you know …” and that kinda what fused me to continue to talk about domestic violence because I had that moment to say something… And I was young, I was in my early twenties, but that just struck me like – he thought that was okay!
The Florida Police Force are now getting John to present this story in their training for police officers.
Website of Christian Men Against Domestic Violence [Internet Archive link]. You can also find them on Facebook