Abuse and Denial: The Blind Eye of “Nice” People
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
Acts 20:28-30 ESV (28) Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood. (29) I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; (30) and from among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them.
Years ago when I was a brand new sheriff’s deputy, I was assigned to guard a prisoner in a hospital. In a fit, he had smashed his hand into a concrete wall at the jail and had to have surgery. He later, in another tantrum, pulled the surgical wiring out and the surgeon told him he was just going to have to live with a crippled hand!
While I was guarding him, we handcuffed him to the hospital bed. A nurse came in, old enough to know better, glared at the handcuff, and asked me in a growly tone – “Is that really necessary?” I told her it was. She didn’t believe me.
People deny evil. Well, until it comes calling at their own door. I wonder what that nurse’s attitude would have been if it was her own daughter whose face this wicked man had smashed (he was incarcerated on felony assault charges). She may have been a nice lady had I known her in other circumstances, but at that moment when she was living out the denial of evil, she was anything but nice. She was, in fact, an ally of evil.
Wickedness exists. There is a devil. Human beings are capable of and indeed commit vicious acts of violence against the image of God every single day. Their throat really is an open grave. There is no fear of God before their eyes. As Paul warned us, even in the church (perhaps especially in the church) wolves are on the prowl. Satan as a roaring lion is lurking just outside the door waiting to pounce. Why in the world do we think these things aren’t true? Do we accuse God of exaggeration?
Truly nice people do NOT deny evil. Good people hunger and thirst for righteousness and look forward to justice being done. Nice people do not selfishly isolate themselves in a fantasy land like the Emerald City of Oz (where even the wicked witch sauntered in sometimes). But so often the Christian church acts like a mob of munchkins dancing around the good witch Glenda, singing Ding, Dong the Witch is Dead. No, the witch is not dead! Not yet.
Essentially every single Christian victim of abuse who I have talked to tells me the same thing. Christians – all of these nice people in their churches – intentionally turned a blind eye to the evil that was being done to them when they asked for help. And then, an odd thing happened (which, as it turns out, is really quite logical). The nice people turned nasty. But not against the abuser. No, they turned their guns on the victim for daring to rock their dreamland.
Good people do not deny the reality of evil. Good people are not naive about the tactics of the enemy. Good people rise up in anger against evil when they see it. Good people mirror the image of God, who Himself does all of these very things.
All of this is why, quite frankly, I don’t like “nice” people. They won’t ever have your back. You can’t trust them.
Matthew 15:14 ESV (14) Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”