Dishwashers, Lawnmowers, and Leaky Roofs
UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
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(Galatians 6:2 ESV) Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
I am spending some time this afternoon trying to fix a pesky dishwasher. Stops on one minute and keeps running. So I got on the internet and ordered the control board that they said needed to be replaced. It came today and the paperwork that came with it said it was an “easy” install, only one step above beginner level (beginner being you can use a screwdriver or hammer but that’s about all). Not. I have it all put together and things are running but I don’t think I put it together the same way it was. The buttons don’t feel the same, so back apart it has to come. When my wife gets home she can back me up and show me which side of this or that these little metal brackets go on.
I used to declare such things “pieces of junk” and bend them into position until they were useless, then go out and buy a new whatever. For the most part, those old days have passed and I hope some new things have come. Years ago I slammed a cupboard door shut after I bashed my head on it while working on some plumbing. Then you have to fix the cupboard door too, so it just isn’t very productive.
Which brings me to the point. When a woman has to depart from an abusive spouse (can work the other way round too), suddenly everything is dumped on her. This should be a giant opportunity for the church body to step in and help. Broken dishwashers, lawnmowers that won’t start, a leak in the ceiling, car issues….you name it, it’s all hers now. As we have said before, abuse victims are largely the biblical widows of our day. Barbara Roberts has written about this and proposes that the best way to handle it is for a married couple in the church to jointly “take on” a situation like this and lend a hand. Older retired couples are the perfect team — like grandparents. It is always best, for the sake of wisdom and propriety, for both “grandpa and grandma” to be present when helping.
The stress on single mothers is just a huge burden. Often she has to work outside her home to make ends meet. There are children’s issues to deal with. And on top of that, all of those “fix-its” that normally a husband / father would do. That doesn’t mean that a woman can’t do these things. What it does mean is that one person can’t. If the following instructions are given in regard to how we are to treat our enemy, surely we must do them for Christ’s people:
(Exodus 23:4-5 ESV) (4) “If you meet your enemy’s ox or his donkey going astray, you shall bring it back to him. (5) If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying down under its burden, you shall refrain from leaving him with it; you shall rescue it with him.
If you see Jeff’s dishwasher busted, feel free to go fix it for him. (That’s in the Bible someplace, but I can’t recall the reference just now.)
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