Our position on divorce: We believe that marriage is a covenant, the terms of which are the vows. Habitual, unrepentant, violation of those vows destroys the covenant and entitles the wronged spouse to divorce, though does not require it.
The Bible sets out covenant-destroying sins:
- desertion and abuse (1 Cor. 7:15) – abuse is a form of desertion because the evil conduct violates and repels the victim
- adultery (Mat 19, Mk 10).
God doesn’t hate the legal process of divorce. God hates the sins of desertion, abuse and adultery that cause marriages to break down.
We believe that a wronged party, after divorce, is free to remarry, only in the Lord (i.e., another believer).
Is abuse grounds for divorce?
The Bible DOES allow divorce for domestic abuse
Biblical divorce for abuse explained in a nutshell
Does God hate divorce?
God hates divorce? Not always.
Does God hate divorce? (YouTube interview with Barbara Roberts)
You have heard that it was said “God hates divorce,” but I say unto you…
Stop saying “God Hates Divorce”
Other objections to abuse being grounds for divorce
Isn’t adultery the only ground for divorce?
What is the purpose of marriage? Is it to display Christ’s love for the church?
Which one is worse? The adulterer or the abuser?
Let’s put this “But he hasn’t physically abused you” nonsense to rest
True or False? “Jesus speaks of divorce being permissible, and his reason for such is that our hearts can be hard.”
Arguing from the lesser to the greater to establish biblical divorce
Challenging the ‘No Divorce for Abuse’ fortress which has been raised up against the knowledge of God
Is mercury poisoning a valid reason for divorce?
Is divorce for abuse biblical? Who’s asking?
The Permanence View – the notion that divorce is NEVER permissible
Abusive marriages portray God’s covenant with His people? – Really? (a challenge to John Piper)
Good men: please denounce the permanence view of marriage that denies any reason for divorce
On Unconditional Covenants (Ps Sam Powell explains that biblical covenants can not be unconditional)
Does the victim of abuse need church permission to divorce?
Church discipline and church permission for divorce – how my mind has changed (by Barbara Roberts)
David Instone-Brewer, the Westminster Confession, and judging divorce
The Bible virtually commands divorce for domestic abuse
A sure sign of an unsafe church is when it says abuse victims may not separate or divorce without permission from the church leaders
Other articles on divorce which you might find helpful
We make void God’s Word when we prohibit divorce for abuse
False Vows do not a Covenant Make — by Pastor Dietrich Wichmann
Do not add an extra clause to the marriage covenant after it has been ratified
The one flesh covenant and divorce. In domestic abuse, divorce is NOT the worse possible outcome.
The Puritan confessions on divorce & remarriage — Ps David Dykstra discusses why the 1689 London Confession (the confession of Particular Baptists) did not include the section on divorce and remarriage which the Presbyterian Westminster Confession had included.
Barbara Roberts agrees with some of David Instone-Brewer’s views on divorce
Barbara Roberts disagrees with some of David Instone-Brewer’s views on divorce
Carl Trueman and Todd Pruitt believe that abuse is grounds for divorce
Protecting women from abuse. Has Exodus 21:10 been mistranslated in most English versions of the Bible?