A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

What do you know about programs for abusers?

These programs are known by different names in different countries:

  • Batterer Intervention Program (BIP)
  • Men’s Behaviour Change Program (MBCP)
  • Domestic Abuse Intervention Program (DAIP)
  • Domestic Abuse Intervention and Prevention Program (DAIPP)
  • Domestic Violence Perpetrator Program (DVPP)

Don Hennessy ran groups for groups for male intimate abusers, but stopped when he realised they were not doing much good and were dangerous in some cases.

Anger Management is Not the Answer

The Duluth Model and programs for abusers

When Men Hit Women — by Jan Hoffman, New York Times. This discusses the Duluth Model, police responses to abusers, and problems with mandatory arrest.

Men’s Behavior Change — it’s not about doing therapy with the men

Chris Moles Digest Chris Moles is a pastor and biblical counselor who runs programs for men who abuse their wives. He trains biblical counselors and church leaders. We have a bit of praise but many concerns about what Chris is doing.

Men’s Behavior Change Programs (Abuser Intervention Programs) — interview of Danny Blay, broadcast by the Law Report, ABC Radio National (Australia), July 2006.

Leopards can’t change their spots but domestic violence programmes do change lives — This explains the UK research Project Mirabal. [Update 03/11/21: This link now contains the final report for Project Mirabal.] Readers, please be aware that the UK perpetrator programs which Project Mirabal researched might differ significantly from programs you might find in the USA. To explain the differences, I will quote a small part of the article (emphasis mine):

Domestic violence perpetrator programmes involve groups of men who have used violence or abuse against a partner or ex-partner. Some are ordered by a criminal court to go on these programmes as part of their sentence. But the programmes we looked at were attended by men who had volunteered or who had been referred by social services, a family court or by a partner telling them that if they don’t get “professional help”, their relationship would be over.

Early in the programme they learn techniques for managing their feelings and their use of violence. Later in the course, they consider how their actions affect others – including their children – and are challenged to think about what male dominance means both in their relationship and in the world outside. They are lengthy programmes, and women (and sometimes children) are offered support alongside, but separate to, the men’s programme.

Paul Hegstrom and Life Skills International — an organization we are reluctant to endorse

Men’s Behavior Change work — a report from the 2012 No To Violence conference — mentions the importance of partner contact

Lundy Bancroft’s thoughts about abuser treatment programs

Looking at his Anger problem

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men — Lundy Bancroft video presentation

Reducing Recidivism

Posts from this blog giving scriptural principles about behaviour change programs for abusers

God only did one counseling session with Cain

Don’t Waste Your Time Counseling Esau — He Isn’t Going to Change

Contriving a test to probe whether a hardened heart has repented (Is it always sinful to tell an untruth? — Part 3)

Primary Prevention: changing social attitudes that breed and enable domestic abuse

A Call to Men are helping create a world where all men and boys are loving and respectful and all women and girls are valued and safe.

Tony Porter encourages men to break free of the “Man Box”. Tony, who founded A Call To Men, tells powerful stories from his own life. He shows how the “act like a man” mentality which is drummed into so many men and boys can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other.

Jackson Katz is internationally renowned for his pioneering scholarship and activism on issues of gender, race and violence. He has long been a major figure and thought leader in the growing global movement of men working to promote gender equality and prevent gender violence. He is co-founder of Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP), one of the longest-running and most widely influential gender violence prevention programs in North America, and the first major program of its kind in the sports culture and the military.

Resources for men who want to stop hurting the ones they love

Choosing to Change: a handbook for men concerned about their abusive behaviours towards those they love — by Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter

Feeling Angry Playing Fair — Free book by Ken McMaster

3 Comments

  1. verdigrisblackbird

    I live very rural. The church I USED to attend with abuser who still does (and walks on water) has not even checked to see if I still exist.
    Please please offer an information packet I could request to be sent. This would spread the word. I would know it was sent as well and watch for any sign of church outreach etc.

    • Hi verdigrisblackbird, I’m sorry for my slow reply. I’m moving house this coming weekend.

      We do not have an information pack to send to churches, but we do have items that you can send to your former church. With some of these items you can print them out and snail mail them to the church (that way you could send them anonymously). I’ll leave it up to you which items you send to that church. I do not send out items to churches unless that church or that church leader has specifically requested me to do so.

      ACFJ flyers and business cards

      Our FAQs are the most frequently asked questions we get at this blog.

      One of the items in the FAQs list is As a pastor, what are the most important things for me to know about domestic abuse?. I put it in the FAQs list in the hope that pastors would read it. But in my experience, pastors seldom ask that question and they very seldom ask it of women like me who are survivors of abuse. I wish more pastors would ask that question!

      • Hi again verdigrisblackbird,. In my previous comment I wrote: “I do not send out items to churches unless that church or that church leader has specifically requested me to do so.” Please don’t take my words as implying that you ought not send items to your former church despite them not having asked you to do so.

        My choice not to send out items to churches unless the church has asked me to do so, is because (a) I am busy, and (b) I have found that churches tend to ignore my work and I don’t enjoy the feeling of being ignored. My abusive husbands often gave me the silent treatment. Being ignored by churches, professing Christians, and so-called ‘abuse advocates’ can easily trigger me into anxiety and depression.

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