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Thursday Thought — Learned Helplessness, a misapplied concept

Some theorists have mistakenly applied the concept of “learned helplessness” to the situation of battered women and other chronically traumatized people.  Such concepts tend to portray the victim as simply defeated or apathetic, whereas in fact a much livelier and more complex inner struggle is usually taking place.  In most cases the victim has not …

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This Thing Called Healing

I can’t take criticism. After a lifetime of abuse, the smallest critique sends me either running to the bathroom to cry or coming out with both fists flailing, trying desperately to fend off attacks. All I hear is yet again how bad I am, how messed up I am, how selfish, stubborn and hard-headed I …

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Abuse and the Church: A Theory About Why Victims are Not Helped

UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, …

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Divorce for Abuse Argued from Colossians 2

UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, …

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Abuse and Denial: More Reasons Why Pastors Don’t Stand With Abuse Victims — from Judith Herman

Once more, Judith Herman’s book, Trauma and Recovery [*Affiliate link], provides us with wonderful insight into why so many church leaders minimize, trivialize, and dismiss abuse victims.  Listen to Herman’s summation here of what Sigmund Freud found in the early years of his research on “hysteria” (i.e., Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder): This empathic identification with his …

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Abuse and Politics: How Christians Have Created an Abuser-Friendly Social Context — From Judith Herman

Ok, everyone needs to stop what they are doing and order a copy of this book that I keep quoting from.  Judith Herman’s Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror [*Affiliate link]. This lady knows what she is talking about.  So listen to her again: It is not only the …

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