A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Sexual Abuse

This page is in two sections:
1. Sexual abuse in adult relationships.
2. Pedophilia and child molestation.

Scroll down for the heading Pedophilia and Child Molestation.

Sexual abuse in adult to adult relationships

1 Corinthians 7:14 Whose body is trump?

Phil Monroe, Christian Psychologist and biblical counselor, refutes the argument that according to 1 Corinthians 7:14, women must submit to their husband’s sexual requests.

Do Men need Sex?  Wants vs. needs and the making of weak men

by Dr. Phil Monroe, Christian Psychologist and biblical counselor.

Louise McOrmond-Plummer

This website is for professionals who encounter women who have experienced the crime of intimate partner sexual violence.  It contains knowledge useful for doctors, counsellors, police, social workers, domestic violence advocates, sexual assault works, and others.

Marital Rape:  Is it Even a Possibility in Christian Marriage?

This post at Spiritual Sounding Board exposes and rebuts the wicked thinking of a man who claims that martial rape cannot happen in a Christian marriage because the wife gave permanent consent to sexual intercourse with her husband when she took her marriage vows.

The myth of women’s false accusations of domestic violence and rape and misuse of protection orders

Fact sheet by xyonline.net, also available in PDF. Summary from the fact sheet:

Myth:

Women routinely make up allegations of domestic violence and rape, including to gain advantage in family law cases. And women use protection orders to remove men from their homes or deny contact with children.

Facts:

  • The risk of domestic violence increases at the time of separation.
  • Most allegations of domestic violence in the context of family law proceedings are made in good faith and with support and evidence for their claims.
  • Rates of false accusations of rape are very low.
  • Women living with domestic violence often do not take out protection orders and do so only as a last resort.
  • Protection orders provide an effective means of reducing women’s vulnerability to violence.
Protective Behaviors for Children

An ACFJ post that might answer some questions from mothers who are about to have to provide their abuser with unsupervised access to their children, and the mothers know the abuser has been sexually grooming or outright sexually abusing the children.

Sexist humour and rape jokes: Five key points

Sexist jokes often are dismissed or excused as harmless fun. Yet they have real, negative effects in the world. They are linked to sexist and violent behaviour, they worsen gender inequalities, and they increase tolerance for violence against women.

The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking 

Exposes and critiques the practices of ‘Domestic Discipline’ so called, which can be a way for abusers to pressure their victims into accepting S&M practices in the bedroom as well as making them submit to physical assault and violence.

This is How Victim-Blaming Logic Would Play out in Everyday Scenarios

3 one-minute videos that each feature an ordinary setting in which one character uses victim-blaming behavior to excuse their problematic actions, similar to the victim-blaming actions in cases of sexual assault and domestic abuse.

Trauma, Sexual Assault and Eating Disorders

from NEDA (National Eating Disorders Association), an article that discussions the correlation between sexual assault and trauma to eating disorders.

Unspeakable

by Victoria Police, Australia, is a series of of six podcasts produced by Victoria Police (Australia). It offers a rare glimpse into the real life cases and the people behind them.  Over six episodes, you’ll hear from investigators, experts, victim-survivors, bringing their stories out from the shadows and into the light reality.

What about sexual abuse in marriage?

ACFJ FAQ page with a list of related posts

Pedophilia and Child Molestation

These links may be helpful to women who find they are or have been married to pedophiles. They may also be of help to those who are dealing with child molestation.

A Solitary Journey 

Brenda Elysium shares her story of being married for over three decades to a man who had a secret identity – that of a pedophile. She shares some of the details of her life in order to help others who are isolated by the secrecy inherent in living with an individual with a sexual compulsion or addition.

Jessica Fisher

Powerful story from eldest daughter of The Willis Clan. “As far back as I can remember, I was sexually abused by my father…”

Jimmy Hinton

Jimmy Hinton is a child protection advocate, a pastor, a husband and a father.  In 2011, Jimmy’s  life was turned upside down when a victim disclosed to him that she had been sexually abused by the former pastor – Jimmy’s father.  Jimmy and his mother Clara reported his father to the police. John Hinton is currently serving a 30-60 year prison sentence for sex crimes against children and won’t be eligible for parole for 30 years.

Since then Jimmy has worked tirelessly to understand the mind and motives of pedophiles so that we can better protect children from them.  His site is dedicated to his musing on abuse, God, and the journey of healing for survivors.

Jimmy Hinton’s podcast on radio show “Restory” with Mary DeMuth

A 50 minute interview where Jimmy tells his story of how he found out about his father and the circumstances leading up to his father’s arrest.  In addition Jimmy talks about how most Christians don’t understand what the Bible says about evil. He talks about sin leveling, the role of the pastor and church leadership and how their role is to protect the sheep and they are to report, not investigate, criminal matters.

We have a Jimmy Hinton tag which contains all the posts we have written about Jimmy’s work.

Jimmy and Clara Hinton PODCASTS: The Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcast
Spiritual Sounding Board items
PartnerSPEAK.org.au

A peer support forum for ‘affected partners’ – people who are affected by and concerned about the child abuse material viewed by their partner, husband or family members.

Rosie Batty’s discovery of ex-partner’s child porn charges

Rosie Batty, former Australian of the Year and Domestic Violence campaigner, talks of the trauma she experienced when she discovered her ex-partner had been charged with accessing online child abuse material at a library.  His child pornography charges are a lesser-known part of Batty’s tragic and well-publicized story.

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